Who is over 40 and has never been married... (date, men, lover)

[60-minutes-II]

Originally Posted by shania

Uh, all you've proven is that I will never get married....to YOU!

I wouldn't ever settle for such an old lady. The oldest I would go is 28.

But really good luck

[nuala]

Originally Posted by funymann

My son is 9. I feel when he is old enough and leaves I will follow. I can't stand being here. I would have left years ago but I love him WAY too much. Plus, I raised her child why would I walk out on my own? I have to be here for him. So I sacrifice my happiness so I can tuck him in at night. To be there for him when he gets off the bus. To throw the football around with him. Things I would miss if I left. It would change the whole great little person he has turned out to be.

This love for a child is a genuine, brilliant thing that can happen to a person.

So why are you giving the "don't marry" advise to Ron? You are advising him to not experience the depths of love for a child that you have. Would you exchange having your child for being single and getting one-night-stands now and then?

If only you had chosen that independent gal with goals, right? You'd have a better companionship... So maybe the real advise in between your lines comes across as "getting the right companion", not really staying single and never experiencing how holding a child's hand feels like.

[Rcm58]

Maybe some of the over 40 crowd never recovered from hair style changes. I know some of my friends looked like they had their forehead surgically enhanced when long hair went out of style or the perm craze ended for guys. I also started noticing some pretty big ears and noses. Could be it was all down hill from there.

[funymann]

Originally Posted by nuala

This love for a child is a genuine, brilliant thing that can happen to a person.

So why are you giving the "don't marry" advise to Ron? You are advising him to not experience the depths of love for a child that you have. Would you exchange having your child for being single and getting one-night-stands now and then?

If only you had chosen that independent gal with goals, right? You'd have a better companionship... So maybe the real advise in between your lines comes across as "getting the right companion", not really staying single and never experiencing how holding a child's hand feels like.

I suppose if I would have chosen that independent gal I still would have had difficulties. For me to dwell on what could have been is not the answer. I have done alot to help the one I have. She just seems to be stubborn in her ways.

You are right. Ron COULD possibly meet some really nice gal somewhere. Who knows who is the RIGHT companion? I thought she was. Somewhere down the road the dust settled and I saw the real mess I entered into.

Today's world people don't know how to work together. So if you do get married you better make sure she and you are on the same page. I mean, she better not over ride you and put down your thoughts. These are a sure sign of trouble. SO...if you DO have kids with her she will do the same thing except for the child's sake.

There was a gal I dated years and years ago. I had a sooped up car and when I was leaving a stop sign I kinda jumped on it just to have alittle fun. When I squealed the tires and took off fast she said, "Oh, you're cool." I should have stopped, opened the door and said, "GET OUT!!" That was a sure sign she was a disrespectful little snot and I should have known better.

So guys, if you truly want to be happy you better make sure she has DEEP respect for you. ALWAYS! That is a true sign of love if she is respectful toward you. If she bad mouths you and likes to verbally fight with you in a confrontational way you will find yourself mad all the time.

As for children and babies...Children are a TRUE blessing from God! You cannot have a greater joy or a priviledge than to raise a child. Remember that next time you go in to check on the youngster and they are peacefully sleeping in their bed. Kiss their forehead and then thank God for giving you such a privilege to raise them.

Make sure you find a compatible mate to help you raise them right.

[Cindy15161]

Originally Posted by Little Mizz Pittsburgh

I have a female friend and me and her were having a heated discussion last week because she made a comment about how any woman who says that she does NOT want to get married is LYING. I had such a difficult time trying to get through to her that EVERYONE DOES NOT WANT TO BE MARRIED! I just don't look at it as being the end all to everything.

I had this kind of discussion with one of my friends not too long ago. Not everyone wants or needs to be married. Everyone expects it though. I keep getting aske especially by family oh is he the one? Yeah, but not to marry. I can take care of myself.

[WheredoIlive?]

Originally Posted by Ron.

and do you plan on getting married?





R

I have THREE close college friends who have NEVER married.

One is 41, one 42, and the other is 40.

I think many people marriage is not meant for them.

I am probably one of those people, but what is done is done, LOL, I am married and have been with him since age 25.

I do not think the whole world needs to marry and in some ways society may be better off, if everyone is not feeling forced to couple up!@

[WheredoIlive?]

Originally Posted by funymann

I suppose if I would have chosen that independent gal I still would have had difficulties. For me to dwell on what could have been is not the answer. I have done alot to help the one I have. She just seems to be stubborn in her ways.

You are right. Ron COULD possibly meet some really nice gal somewhere. Who knows who is the RIGHT companion? I thought she was. Somewhere down the road the dust settled and I saw the real mess I entered into.

Today's world people don't know how to work together. So if you do get married you better make sure she and you are on the same page. I mean, she better not over ride you and put down your thoughts. These are a sure sign of trouble. SO...if you DO have kids with her she will do the same thing except for the child's sake.

There was a gal I dated years and years ago. I had a sooped up car and when I was leaving a stop sign I kinda jumped on it just to have alittle fun. When I squealed the tires and took off fast she said, "Oh, you're cool." I should have stopped, opened the door and said, "GET OUT!!" That was a sure sign she was a disrespectful little snot and I should have known better.

So guys, if you truly want to be happy you better make sure she has DEEP respect for you. ALWAYS! That is a true sign of love if she is respectful toward you. If she bad mouths you and likes to verbally fight with you in a confrontational way you will find yourself mad all the time.

As for children and babies...Children are a TRUE blessing from God! You cannot have a greater joy or a priviledge than to raise a child. Remember that next time you go in to check on the youngster and they are peacefully sleeping in their bed. Kiss their forehead and then thank God for giving you such a privilege to raise them.

Make sure you find a compatible mate to help you raise them right.

I am thinking now unless you plan to have kids one shouldnt marry. I got married knowing I could not have children.

Also you are right about respect. When woman loses respect for a man it is horrible. Even for the woman. Man should be honored by wife. I probably failed in that myself.

[WheredoIlive?]

Originally Posted by Magnum Mike

I'm 52 and never been married, and it certainly isn't my choice. I'm a type 1 diabetic and sometimes that tends to scare women away, who don't know anything about diabetes, and think it's like the plague or something. It's only a condition that is treated with insulin injections, and maintaining a proper diet and exercising. With proper care, I can live a normal life, but, unfortunately, I wasn't able to convince ex-girlfriends and women I've met in the past.

Why dont you date other diabetics? You didnt say if you were disabled, but they even have disabled dating websites. I know bad health does scare people off. Dating for me was very difficult though I did end up married in my case.

[WheredoIlive?]

Originally Posted by funymann

Hey Ron..

I am 40 and wish I wasn't married.

Seriously!

You think being in a relationship is a wonderful thing well, it's not all that.

There is so much sacrifice. Seriously. You have to cater to everyone's needs and wants and all that jazz.

You, my friend, can go where you want, when you want.

I remember a friend of mind telling me when I was single and 25 that I should get married. I never wanted to. He would call my phone and leave messages like him singing, "It's Saturday night and I ain't got nobody."

I wished I would have stayed single. I am married and have been for 12 years. All because I continue to suffer. She's extremely happy.

Seriously. Enjoy life. If you have no morals like mizz and you don't mind shacking up to relieve some sexual tension then singleness is it. I did need that avenue of relief but have some standards as to sex OUTSIDE of marriage.

I don't understand people that do have sex with whomever and have no problem with that type of lifestyle for the lack of morals but then get married. I mean, if I didn't have morals with the sex outside of marriage why would I get married??? Seriously.

Enjoy your life.

Marriage is the institution that everyone on the outside wants in, and everyone on the inside wants out.

She's happy, and you are miserable, and she DOESNT EVEN KNOW?

What is that deal about?

[shania]

Originally Posted by 60-minutes-II

I wouldn't ever settle for such an old lady. The oldest I would go is 28.

But really good luck

Luckily, you won't have to. But the other 32-37 years olds that have been asking me out don't seem to have a problem with this "old lady."