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This is another "nice guy" thread and if it gets going, it should bring out the really caustic comments about how most women can't stand such men. Not all, of course, but you are setting yourself up for pretty stiff competition if you follow this path. And a proportion only claim to like these characteristics, because they have no other option.
Other factors and what the general opinion is:
Frugal and avoids debt = cheap
Plans for the future = boring
Strives to get an education = egghead
Friendly and even tempered = wimp
Takes responsability for his actions = sucker
Doesn't use women so therefore has little "experience" = pervert
Reliable. Likes quiet enjoyment of life = weirdo
Basically, if you want to add to this list, find out what women complain about when they b|tch about their ex. This is the one time most women really value "nice guy" characteristics in a man.
Most most cool tempered/mild mannered guys I've been with were boring....I'm talking SNOOZEFESTS. I personally need a guy with more of an 'edge', that I can't walk all over because I can be very controlling and bossy. Not saying there is anything wrong with cool tempered/mild mannered guys, but they're just not for me..
Seems nowadays many young female can't distinguish between confidence and cockiness.
Cockiness is just a word that means "too much confidence."
There is fundamentally very little difference, no matter how much we attempt to stretch the definitions to suit our likings.
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I tend to be very polite in public, non-confrontational type of guy mainly because I'm usually by myself when I'm out. My ex would get upset with me and accuse me of flirting although its just in my nature to be polite/nice as much as possible.
I think that's a good way to be.
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it just makes me feel good. She also said that she felt unsafe because of how nice I was.
Yeah; that is irrational. Sounds like garden variety manipulation.
Not just you but by saying a mild mannered guy is boring makes it sound like you need that drama and challenge in a relationship
I didn't mean ALL, just from my experiences, all the mild mannered guys I've been with were boring. They didn't excite me. In all actuality, I'mma keep it real. Most of my LTR's have been filled with drama and challenges, so although I felt it was 'refreshing' to get with someone who was mild mannered and cool tempered, they just didn't cut it for me. Sometimes you need an argument or two or three. Arguments and disagreements can be healthy for a relationship, as long as they're not happening EVERY DAY. If they're happening EVERY DAY, then its time to throw up the deuces.
For the poster who asked the difference between edgy and abusive, there's a huge difference. A lot of my LTR's were drama filled and came filled with a bunch of challenges, but one thing is for sure, NONE of my Ex's were EVER abusive. I draw the line when it comes to abuse. Physically and emotionally.
I would draw my line at "edgy"...I don't want someone who's abusive. I don't even want someone who's argumentative, and will start disagreements for the sake of disagreeing. I like a minimal amount of conflict in my life, and in my relationships.
I would draw my line at "edgy"...I don't want someone who's abusive. I don't even want someone who's argumentative, and will start disagreements for the sake of disagreeing. I like a minimal amount of conflict in my life, and in my relationships.
Well, then a mild manned, cool tempered guy would be just for you, then..
Lol. On another note, my brother is quite the ladies man because of his cockiness. But his success with the ladies has translated into an illegitimate child that the mother of is very irresponsible, many failed relationships because he has a bad attitude and so does the woman. Also translated into him constantly dealing with drama, thats not my thing, I want a woman who I can agree or disagree with, without edging towards a fist fight. Edginess/cockiness and drama are for teenagers. I've been out of highschool and almost done with a second B.S. I dont have time for the bull.
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