Will anyone admit they love their husband/wife more than their kids? (marriage, women)

[Weekend Traveler]

I know many married families with children where the husband and wife are very much in love and the kids are taken care of but the relationship is strained. They may have thought that having kids was a good idea once but really they are better spouses than parents. Just like Ronald and Nancy Reagan

In other cases, the man and the wife tolerate each other but really stay together for the kids. Each of them know that if they broke up or divorced- they would lose access to their joyful day to day interaction with their sons and daughters. They love the kids far more than their wife/husband.

Which is it for you, please reply to the survey.

[Padgett2]

The happiest marriages are built around loving the spouse and the children differently, not equally.

With children, love includes discipline and protection, guidance toward decisions. Try that kind of love on a spouse and see what kind of marriage you have.

[andreaspercheron]

I love my kids more than my SO. I love him too but there is a love between mother and child that cannot be compared to. I'd give my life in a second for my kids and would do anything for them. No offense but anyone who says they love their spouse or SO more than their kids has some real issues.

[JustJulia]

Originally Posted by Padgett2

The happiest marriages are built around loving the spouse and the children differently, not equally.

With children, love includes discipline and protection, guidance toward decisions. Try that kind of love on a spouse and see what kind of marriage you have.

^ What Padgett said. My love for my husband is different from my love for my children.

[steelstress]

Originally Posted by andreaspercheron

I love my kids more than my SO. I love him too but there is a love between mother and child that cannot be compared to. I'd give my life in a second for my kids and would do anything for them. No offense but anyone who says they love their spouse or SO more than their kids has some real issues.

[JustJulia]

I do believe that spouses should put one another first in their relationship and not let anyone get between them, even their children. That doesn't mean they love their kids less than their spouse.

[Coolhand68]

I love my children more than anyone or anything in the world. No two ways about it.

That said, it doesn't mean I can't love a women equally as much, it's just a different kind of love.

[SuzyQ123]

I think it is a differant kind of love. I love my husband and my girls with my whole heart, just in differant ways. In somethings my husband comes first, like we don't eat dinner until daddy is home even if is 30 minutes late. In something the girls come first, like we only have x amount of $ and both the kids and my husband need a new coat, well the girls would get the coat first. I have a close bond with all of them.

[JC JC Mom]

When my daughter was born me and my husband were talking about how much we love her and pretty much at the same time we both said its like you have another heart just for your kids there is just no else that would fit into that heart just my two wonderful children... of course I love my husband, my own mother for that matter, grandmother, brothers, neices, nephews and the list could go on. but not to the level of my two kids.

They are incrediable, expectional lights in my life. Its the most purest and unconditional love ever. I would give up my own life without a second thought for one of my kids.

[Azmordean]

Originally Posted by JustJulia

I do believe that spouses should put one another first in their relationship and not let anyone get between them, even their children. That doesn't mean they love their kids less than their spouse.

Good post. QFT. And, while I seldom bring up religion in this forum (actually, this may be the first time!), the bible has some interesting things to say on this as well - in short, it agrees with your post.