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Old 05-06-2009, 03:49 PM
 
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Default Married women who talk about other men being attractive

My friends newlywed wife constantly talks about other men she finds handsome.she even jokes around about certain entertainers or athletes she thinks are cute and refer to one she finds attractive as her boyfriend

Listen i relaize even when your married it doesnt mena u can find other people atrractive but do u really need to mention every guy you think is cute when your married or in a relationship?

It makes it seem like your still daydreaming about other people

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Old 05-06-2009, 04:53 PM
 
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My friends newlywed wife constantly talks about other men she finds handsome.she even jokes around about certain entertainers or athletes she thinks are cute and refer to one she finds attractive as her boyfriend

Listen i relaize even when your married it doesnt mena u can find other people atrractive but do u really need to mention every guy you think is cute when your married or in a relationship?

It makes it seem like your still daydreaming about other people

If the sex roles were reversed, you'd have about 50 angry responses by now!
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Old 05-06-2009, 05:03 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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I agree. I think it is disrespectful. It's one thing for a man or woman to occasionally mention that a celeb (someone not realistically available) is cute, but constant talk of it is inconsiderate of your partner and suggests you are keeping an eye open for someone better, or comparing them to unattainable images of celebrities.
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Old 05-06-2009, 05:08 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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If the sex roles were reversed, you'd have about 50 angry responses by now!
Oh c'mon. It had only been four minutes. LOL

I think it's disrespectful, especially if the s/o hears this. If it's just girl talk among girls, I consider it just that--just as I do with guys.
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Old 05-06-2009, 05:27 PM
 
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My hubby and I talk about people we're attracted to all the time. It's part of our sexuality and who we are. It's doesn't make us feel threatened or uncomfortable at all.

Not sure why the OP cares so much about what happens in someone else's marriage.
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Old 05-06-2009, 05:46 PM
 
Location: Baltimore, MD
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My SO and I also openly talk about entertainers we're attracted to. It's not constant but its not something we hide. Its not an issue for us.

Is it an issue for your friend? If so, does he say anything about it?
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Old 05-06-2009, 07:35 PM
 
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my husband and i say if their famous its not cheating, its a chances of a lifetime. its a joke of course we just have fun with it. if you really trust eachother to know it would not really happen whats the harm. its disrespectful if it hurts ones feelings but not if its fun for both. i call a couple famous people my boyfriend. role playing in the bedroom can keep a marriage exciting. i would never replace my husband, he is the hottest thing on this planet.
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Old 05-06-2009, 07:35 PM
 
Location: Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
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If the sex roles were reversed, you'd have about 50 angry responses by now!
not to mention 35 of them telling you to "leave him, he's probably cheating already"
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Old 05-06-2009, 07:49 PM
 
Location: Some place very cold
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My friends newlywed wife constantly talks about other men she finds handsome.she even jokes around about certain entertainers or athletes she thinks are cute and refer to one she finds attractive as her boyfriend

Listen i relaize even when your married it doesnt mena u can find other people atrractive but do u really need to mention every guy you think is cute when your married or in a relationship?
It sounds harmless. Most women I know joke about men they find attractive. It doesn't mean we want to run off with them.
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Old 05-07-2009, 12:36 AM
 
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If the sex roles were reversed, you'd have about 50 angry responses by now!


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not to mention 35 of them telling you to "leave him, he's probably cheating already"
And don't forget the 20 a$$ kissers begging for a second (or is that a third) chance.

Now we have a successful thread. I'm just trying to help. The way this one is going, the moderator will "put it down" by dawn!
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