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Old 05-07-2009, 05:51 PM
 
Location: Ca2Mo2Ga2Va!
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yes, it happened...
but re: the other person's post- no, the individual I referred to wasn't a parent
Got it...strange but maybe he has reasons, like can't have kids or something, moms tend to be more nurturing...who knows!
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Old 05-07-2009, 05:51 PM
 
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this is another popular topic here & of course I have the opposite question (for both men & women to answer)-

what would your impression be of a guy who said he would not consider dating any woman who does not have kids?
IMO, it's his own prerogative. I would not judge negatively.
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Old 05-07-2009, 05:53 PM
 
Location: Oklahoma
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no
In that case, my impression would definitely be: "Whoa...that's strange..." I couldn't go so far as to say that he's a perv (since I still know nothing about the guy), but this does make me wonder.
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Old 05-07-2009, 06:44 PM
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Location: MA/NH
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this is another popular topic here & of course I have the opposite question (for both men & women to answer)-

what would your impression be of a guy who said he would not consider dating any woman who does not have kids?
My initial thoughts would be that he's...

1. He's infertile (shooting blanks) but wants kids to raise.
2. He's an older man and would rather raise kids that are further along in their development and/or doesn't want to deal with the diapering stages.
3. He may or may not want kids of his own, but he wants to see what kind of mother she is already. He wants to make sure that she's a good parent.
4. He's a pedophile.
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Old 05-07-2009, 06:51 PM
 
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My initial thoughts would be that he's...

1. He's infertile (shooting blanks) but wants kids to raise.
no
2. He's an older man and would rather raise kids that are further along in their development and/or doesn't want to deal with the diapering stages.
no
3. He may or may not want kids of his own, but he wants to see what kind of mother she is already. He wants to make sure that she's a good parent.
no
4. He's a pedophile.
yes
1-3 make absolutely no sense for a normal man.
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Old 05-07-2009, 08:27 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, TN
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this is another popular topic here & of course I have the opposite question (for both men & women to answer)-

what would your impression be of a guy who said he would not consider dating any woman who does not have kids?
Actually, if I ever got divorced/widowed, I would rather remarry someone who does have kids versus someone who does not. I would also rather marry a widower versus a divorcee or never married.
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Old 05-07-2009, 08:42 PM
 
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1-3 make absolutely no sense for a normal man.
My uncle was a solid 1. He was infertile, but kept dating women with lots -- and I mean LOTS -- of kids! He just enjoyed having children around ...

... and no, he wasn't a perv. Just liked kids a lot (something I only vaguely understand).
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Old 05-07-2009, 09:35 PM
 
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dude is probably a pedophile
That was my first thought. They say it's a very bad idea for women placing want ads for themselves to mention that they have young children because that's a sure way to lure in pedophiles.
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Old 05-07-2009, 09:38 PM
 
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I would need more information before forming an impression. Does he have children of his own and is therefore more comfortable dating someone else who is also a parent?
That's the only way I could see a "normal" man preferring a woman with kids. A woman with kids "might" better understand his kids than a woman who never had/never wanted kids.
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Old 05-09-2009, 01:20 PM
 
Location: Hot Springs, AR
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I would have to know a lot more before judging. If he had his own children and wanted someone with children the same age, that would be okay. Or if as has been mentioned he can't have children and wants woman who already has children. Maybe so she won't feel like she's missed out if they stay together. And these aren't the old days when men "must continue the bloodline". Otherwise, I can't think of a reason a man would insists that a woman have children already.
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