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From a senior citizen--been there done that advice--ladies--it happens and you better prepare for it. Sure-it is nice to be attractive and appreciated by the opposite sex, particularly when you are young and looking for a partner or just some dates.
But--fact of life--as women mature into moms and grandmoms they may be "pretty" and appealing on many levels but that raw sexuality of youth diminishes. You cannot compete on pure physicality alone and it is a sad fact of life for someone whose identity is wrapped up in "eye-contact" from men. Get over it-and become a whole package.
The OP doesn't mention that her friend is accomplished, interesting, a leader, conversationalist, dynamic, powerful, or educated in an important area. Why would a single man make flirtatious eye-contact with a woman he might see as a respectable mother or grandmother? Maybe it is a sign of respect that she doesn't get oogled.
Develop your attributes as a dynamite person and your self-esteem will soar and if you are alone, someone will notice, and approach you or be receptive to your interest in him.
interesting your statement about invisibility facinated me. here is the other side of the coin.
as to on my own search, i go to dances alot. dance with people i know well, nice older women, harmless known them for years, but i have a vision problem. at these dances, everyone else sees pretty girls sitting at tables waiting to be asked to dance. but i see vampires, no reflection in the mirror at all.
I agree with being a complete package. There is more to a woman then just looks. She should seek out places where men would share her same interest. Strike up a conversation and go from there.
I've known 2 older divorcee's who married their own age bracket. But generally - yea....the older you get the more the age bracket separates. Men 55 are going to marry a 40-45 year old etc. etc.
Since I'm 52 I've pretty much figured out there is no mate in my future. I have no interest in being a cougar even if I was attractive enough to support that which I'm not. And I have less than zero interest in hooking up with a 60-65 year old, having a 5 good years , spend another 10-15 nursing them along as they age, wheeling them around, giving them medicine, visiting them in a nursing home, burying them and ending up alone at the end anyway!
For many who can't stand to be alone, hey, whatever you need, whatever you want, I'm not being judgemental, just saying its not for me. Not that I'm not open minded if someone promising were to appear. I just don't think its going to happen since I'm not out there with a internet dating service and a trank gun, and I'm ok with that.
Maybe it's because the 35-55 year old men have had sexual-harassment allegations thrown at them in the overly-politically-correct 80's/90's so they don't want to feel like they're "creeping a woman out" or "getting in her space" or even "making eye contact too long" by "harassing her". YES, it's true. The couple older guys I hang out with sometimes act this way for fear of "stepping on a woman's toes".
Hmmmm .... you wouldn't happen to be related to Samston, would you???
Samston, the 30 something virgin?
I'm not writing a screen play.
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