Cheating? (movies, boyfriend, marriages, guys)

[NYC1DAY]

In a relationship, what do you guys consider "crossing the line" into cheating territory?

[CESpeed]

Here we go again: Anything that a person would be doing with their spouse. esp sexual. The only except is an open marriage, which by definition there cannot be cheating.

If you are unhappy in your relationship, talk to your SO to fix it, or leave.

[Whyte Byrd]

Probably pretty much anything you wouldn't want your spouse to find out about.

[Boneheaded]

Originally Posted by Whyte Byrd

Probably pretty much anything you wouldn't want your spouse to find out about.

This is so true. The emotional affair begins before the sexual affair in many cases, and is still something you would not want them to know about.

[brokencrayola]

I heard something once that said it all. If you would approach your significant other and tell them what you did with someone else, then it probably isn't crossing the line. If you would not approach them, it probably is. I am female and if my SO were to kiss or even hold hands in a romantic way with someone else, that is not ok and has crossed the line.

[natalayjones]

Originally Posted by CESpeed

Here we go again: Anything that a person would be doing with their spouse. esp sexual. The only except is an open marriage, which by definition there cannot be cheating.

If you are unhappy in your relationship, talk to your SO to fix it, or leave.

I agree. I had a boyfriend once who met someone online; chatting became texting which became hour long phone calls. I ran across some instant messages once where he basically came home and started telling her about his whole day; complaining about work, asking her about her day, talking about her family, movies he wanted to see, things he wanted to do, etc. I was pissed. Not so much that he was saying of all this to a stranger but because he wasn't saying any of this to me. When I confronted him about it, he told me I was insecure and crazy to be jealous of someone he'd never met but my thing is if you talk to her all the time then what do you need me for?

[Whyte Byrd]

Originally Posted by natalayjones

I agree. I had a boyfriend once who met someone online; chatting became texting which became hour long phone calls. I ran across some instant messages once where he basically came home and started telling her about his whole day; complaining about work, asking her about her day, talking about her family, movies he wanted to see, things he wanted to do, etc. I was pissed. Not so much that he was saying of all this to a stranger but because he wasn't saying any of this to me. When I confronted him about it, he told me I was insecure and crazy to be jealous of someone he'd never met but my thing is if you talk to her all the time then what do you need me for?

I'd have asked him, if you thought nothing was wrong with it, why were you hiding it? And answering 'because I'd get angry or jealous' would just tell me he knows it's wrong.

[CESpeed]

Originally Posted by natalayjones

I agree. I had a boyfriend once who met someone online; chatting became texting which became hour long phone calls. I ran across some instant messages once where he basically came home and started telling her about his whole day; complaining about work, asking her about her day, talking about her family, movies he wanted to see, things he wanted to do, etc. I was pissed. Not so much that he was saying of all this to a stranger but because he wasn't saying any of this to me. When I confronted him about it, he told me I was insecure and crazy to be jealous of someone he'd never met but my thing is if you talk to her all the time then what do you need me for?

Exactly.

[NYC1DAY]

Originally Posted by natalayjones

I agree. I had a boyfriend once who met someone online; chatting became texting which became hour long phone calls. I ran across some instant messages once where he basically came home and started telling her about his whole day; complaining about work, asking her about her day, talking about her family, movies he wanted to see, things he wanted to do, etc. I was pissed. Not so much that he was saying of all this to a stranger but because he wasn't saying any of this to me. When I confronted him about it, he told me I was insecure and crazy to be jealous of someone he'd never met but my thing is if you talk to her all the time then what do you need me for?

I don't see anything wrong with doing that

[malamute]

I agree with others, anything you have to hide from the spouse at least when it has to do with someone of the other gender.

For example there are "open" marriages where both spouses go out and do their own thing but they both know about it and are fine with it so technically that's not cheating.