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Old 05-09-2009, 12:30 PM
 
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In a relationship, what do you guys consider "crossing the line" into cheating territory?
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Old 05-09-2009, 12:34 PM
 
Location: Hot Springs, AR
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Here we go again: Anything that a person would be doing with their spouse. esp sexual. The only except is an open marriage, which by definition there cannot be cheating.

If you are unhappy in your relationship, talk to your SO to fix it, or leave.
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Old 05-09-2009, 12:44 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Probably pretty much anything you wouldn't want your spouse to find out about.
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Old 05-09-2009, 01:05 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Probably pretty much anything you wouldn't want your spouse to find out about.
This is so true. The emotional affair begins before the sexual affair in many cases, and is still something you would not want them to know about.
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Old 05-09-2009, 01:08 PM
 
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I heard something once that said it all. If you would approach your significant other and tell them what you did with someone else, then it probably isn't crossing the line. If you would not approach them, it probably is. I am female and if my SO were to kiss or even hold hands in a romantic way with someone else, that is not ok and has crossed the line.
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Old 05-09-2009, 01:19 PM
 
Location: Orlando, FL
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Here we go again: Anything that a person would be doing with their spouse. esp sexual. The only except is an open marriage, which by definition there cannot be cheating.

If you are unhappy in your relationship, talk to your SO to fix it, or leave.
I agree. I had a boyfriend once who met someone online; chatting became texting which became hour long phone calls. I ran across some instant messages once where he basically came home and started telling her about his whole day; complaining about work, asking her about her day, talking about her family, movies he wanted to see, things he wanted to do, etc. I was pissed. Not so much that he was saying of all this to a stranger but because he wasn't saying any of this to me. When I confronted him about it, he told me I was insecure and crazy to be jealous of someone he'd never met but my thing is if you talk to her all the time then what do you need me for?
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Old 05-09-2009, 01:22 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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I agree. I had a boyfriend once who met someone online; chatting became texting which became hour long phone calls. I ran across some instant messages once where he basically came home and started telling her about his whole day; complaining about work, asking her about her day, talking about her family, movies he wanted to see, things he wanted to do, etc. I was pissed. Not so much that he was saying of all this to a stranger but because he wasn't saying any of this to me. When I confronted him about it, he told me I was insecure and crazy to be jealous of someone he'd never met but my thing is if you talk to her all the time then what do you need me for?
I'd have asked him, if you thought nothing was wrong with it, why were you hiding it? And answering 'because I'd get angry or jealous' would just tell me he knows it's wrong.
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Old 05-09-2009, 01:23 PM
 
Location: Hot Springs, AR
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I agree. I had a boyfriend once who met someone online; chatting became texting which became hour long phone calls. I ran across some instant messages once where he basically came home and started telling her about his whole day; complaining about work, asking her about her day, talking about her family, movies he wanted to see, things he wanted to do, etc. I was pissed. Not so much that he was saying of all this to a stranger but because he wasn't saying any of this to me. When I confronted him about it, he told me I was insecure and crazy to be jealous of someone he'd never met but my thing is if you talk to her all the time then what do you need me for?
Exactly.
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Old 05-09-2009, 01:25 PM
 
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I agree. I had a boyfriend once who met someone online; chatting became texting which became hour long phone calls. I ran across some instant messages once where he basically came home and started telling her about his whole day; complaining about work, asking her about her day, talking about her family, movies he wanted to see, things he wanted to do, etc. I was pissed. Not so much that he was saying of all this to a stranger but because he wasn't saying any of this to me. When I confronted him about it, he told me I was insecure and crazy to be jealous of someone he'd never met but my thing is if you talk to her all the time then what do you need me for?
I don't see anything wrong with doing that
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Old 05-09-2009, 02:13 PM
 
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I agree with others, anything you have to hide from the spouse at least when it has to do with someone of the other gender.

For example there are "open" marriages where both spouses go out and do their own thing but they both know about it and are fine with it so technically that's not cheating.
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