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Originally Posted by scribbles76
A noble sentiment, and one I've heard from a dear friend more than once. I would most likely make a living hell of any relationship just to prove myself right about what a bad idea it was. Nobody deserves that.
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I'm kind of similar. While I won't make a relationship a living hell, I do foresee problems. Let's say I decided to "conquer my fears" and let my girlfriend move in with me. And let's say she said this: "Honey, let's stay in, have a quiet dinner, and talk; I don't feel like going to bar trivia tonight."
I can totally imagine myself going into panic mode and breaking up on the spot. Because her statement will trigger reminders of what happened to everyone in my social circle (at least the non-Meetup one), and now it's happening to me too.
Just like in scribbles76's case, it's cruel and unfair to put someone through that. So I'm abstaining from relationships until I'm old, at which point, I'll be less likely to care about having an exciting life.
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. What if I met my woman friend (let's call her Kate, for simplicity) before my long-time male friends got into relationships? Because given the way me and Kate interact (like the hugs that feel more-than-friendly at times), some latent attraction is there. So a relationship is not a big stretch of imagination. Still, it's like joining the Armed Forces. You could get a very reasonable drill sergeant, who focuses on fitness parameters and safety compliance, rather than your coffee consumption and bedspread smoothness. Or you could get some power-crazy sociopath. But if it's that big of a concern for you, maybe you should stick to playing Call of Duty.
