Do You Believe in Soul Mates? (wife, marriage, woman, lover)

[BudinAk]

Do You Believe in "Soul Mates"? (The theory that there is only ONE person in the entire world that is right and meant for you) That you must keep on searching endlessly, for that needle in the haystack, until you find your perfect "other half"? (There are millions of people in this country alone, so you might be searching for a LOOOONNNNNG time!) I'm not saying I don't believe in it; I'm just not convinced that there aren't several others that would have worked out just as well...as the one I picked. I wonder if a lot of divorces happen because people think they screwed up and "got the wrong one", therefore have to start over and keep on looking for that "perfect" other half. Perhaps they expect way too much out of a relationship.
I'd say, if you can, try to make an honest effort to be happy with the one you have; look at their good traits and not their faults...after all, nobody is perfect...

Bud

[SandyCo]

I think that there are probably a few thousand people you could be compatible with, and only a few hundred you could really connect with. Soul mate, though? What the heck is a soul mate? Someone who's perfect for you? I don't think such a person exists. And even if that person does exist, it would impossible to find him/her. I don't believe in fated relationships, mystical connections, etc.

I know someone who divorced her husband because he wasn't her "soul mate". She's still single and likely to remain so, but I have no sympathy. They have kids, so in my opinion, she tore the family apart for some nebulous daydream.

[Travel'r]

Most definately. A soulmate is not somebody you even choose consciously. It just is.
Didn't have to search for him, as he was right under my nose. But he was possibly the last person I initially imagined truly loving. Denied it for four years, just too preposterous, as I thought we were too different in personality. But just couldn't explain all the chronic "psychic"-like "coincidences" through the years which were even more preposterous.

Tried with others. While he's not a priest, always felt like I'm living The Thornbirds in real life. And my "Luke" was just so obvious, don't even know how I continued that charade for three years. So the backhanded stunts he pulled which would have hurt me, didn't even phase me. Should have felt hurt, been crying my eyes out like a normal person, but just "knew".

When it came to things like (this is just one example) SM being on the other tip of this continent and me on this side feeling that he was going through a very tough time, not knowing just why I was feeling physically and emotionally sick with worry over him for four days, and having it confirmed on the fifth, woah! -- and I knew just exactly how he was feeling this time, too! Have always had the knack for this, God knows why, some of the stuff is just so unbelievable, never even told any family about them.

E.T. with the flower in the pot ... Drew Barrymore seeing what's happening ...
I look at it like the odds for the Lottery. Some folks may hit for four out of the six numbers playing their own picks, while others can hit for all six by a computer pick. Many of my family & friends only hit for 2 or three of the numbers, cashed their tickets in, and are so miserable, it's not funny. (And the physical attraction, the convenience, the habit of just being used to somebody, does wear off.)

IMO, a soulmate is Spiritual first, then the other (more romantic...) stuff just snowballs if it's meant to. I loved him long before I ever fell in love with him. Care about him more each year (20th.) If I am anywhere near him, there's a contentment and sense of just belonging there that I can't even begin to describe. Just can't explain it.
Thanks for this topic, Bud :>)

[Sgoldie]

Yes, I do believe in soul mates because I had one. That's not to say that person had no faults. There are many people that would be perfectly acceptable in life to have a fulfilling relationship with and I don't think you should leave what you've happily established in order to find one.


Mine came to me quite by accident in one of the darkest hours of my life almost as if by divine intervention. I didn't recognize it right away but he did. There was something otherwordly about the congruance of our histories, beliefs, interests, values, and talents that make it seem as if we had known each other forever; the other half of me in many ways. It's a rare occurence and maybe not one you find in a whole lifetime, not even by looking. He's passed now.

There was another person, a friend, who I also felt a special spiritual connection to. He was a gay man so even though we loved each other deeply for many years it didn't progress into anything. I hadn't heard from him in a couple of years when he called me three times in a month to tell me how much he loved me. He died the end of that month of a heart attack.

[brikag]

Originally Posted by Sgoldie

Yes, I do believe in soul mates because I had one. That's not to say that person had no faults. There are many people that would be perfectly acceptable in life to have a fulfilling relationship with and I don't think you should leave what you've happily established in order to find one.


Mine came to me quite by accident in one of the darkest hours of my life almost as if by divine intervention. I didn't recognize it right away but he did. There was something otherwordly about the congruance of our histories, beliefs, interests, values, and talents that make it seem as if we had known each other forever; the other half of me in many ways. It's a rare occurence and maybe not one you find in a whole lifetime, not even by looking. He's passed now.

There was another person, a friend, who I also felt a special spiritual connection to. He was a gay man so even though we loved each other deeply for many years it didn't progress into anything. I hadn't heard from him in a couple of years when he called me three times in a month to tell me how much he loved me. He died the end of that month of a heart attack.

Sgoldie, I would like to say I'm very sorry for your loss. He sounds like a gentleman that is fortunate enough to be a kindered spirit in your life. Many wishes.

I believe that we meet alot of people in our lives. I am presently with my love of my life. Is he a "soul mate"? Yes. We laugh everyday, finish each other's sentences, and hand that certain candy bar to the other without saying it (when they need some cheering up). But, I have encountered one gentleman in NYC that I concider a soulmate because he changed my outlook on life in the first ten minutes of our meeting. Can a total stranger change one person's life? Of course. The Causality of life, I guess.

Thank you for listening

[Angel Bear]

I believe in the idea of soul families. People have a group of people that resonate with them. So, a soul mate could be a friend, lover, husband, wife, child, etc., etc.

Romantically speaking then, there would be many options since a soul family is a large group.

In some spiritual circles, they talk about twin flames...the other half of you that completes you, etc.

I don't know how I feel about that...I just know people are in my life to teach me love. So, I like to pick ones that are loving. Hee hee! But, it seems we're in Earth School to learn and advance our soul so we sometimes attract soul mates to give us "growth lessons" (a term that sounds better than challenges LOL).

It's all good though...No right or wrong. And, if there was only one "right" one, then, there'd be a lot of widowers who would be sad Certain people have romantic relationships for brief amounts of time and all it means is that your lessons are done with that person. It's hard and it can hurt, but the heart heals Thank goodness!

Hugz,
L

[dreamofmonterey]

In a sense, yes. I have a hard time with "everything happens for a reason"- but for sure if 2 people are complete opposites, and get married-its a disaster!.

sunny

[mainebrokerman]

yes and no,,i use to believe there was one person, that would fit together like a puzzle,,,but ,,good luck finding that person,,
i say no, because life is fluid, and we are always changing, what might have been THE ideal soulmate, 20, 10 yrs ago,,,would be different today..
i believe relationships are successful because of compromise.

however, if claudia schiffer or shania twain,,knocked on my door tomorrow,,, naked and holding a bottle of wine,,,then yes, id be a believer!

[dreameyes]

No I don't believe there is one person out there that is your "soul mate". But I believe two people can become "soul mates".
I like that idea of "soul families" too!

[LoveBoating]

My wife IS definitely my "soul mate" and it took me many years (over 20) to find her. In my first marriage, I just wanted "someone" and the marriage ended up with the big "D" word, but I'm very glad that it did end up that way. I knew the kind of woman I wanted as a "life long" partner and when I found the things I was looking for, I asked her to marry me. We have had a few disagreements, but other than that.......it has been a GREAT marriage for us.
As far as the lady who divorced her husband because he wasn't her "soul mate", I'd really like to know why she thought that way. She could have had some very good reasons for divorcing him. Divorce can be an excellent thing, even when there are kids involved. Why? Kids need to be around HAPPY parents, not squabbling/angry/hateful parents. That's is a fact.