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One of my married friends, who is a self-proclaimed "machista," told me that he doesn't like it when his wife calls him when he's out with the boys. He said to her that if she does that, it makes him look bad in front of his male friends.
Now, this guy has told me that he has never committed adultery (I'm sad to say that I don't think he's being honest - I also think he's too clever to admit it).
He has his "guy time" with his buddies and I think all married men are entitled to that, but sometimes IMO he goes beyond the limits.
I think that his line to his wife is manipulative - it's as if he wants to make her feel bad for suspecting him of being out too late.
BTW, I've been out with him MANY times, and she's never called when we were out late to complain or to ask him where he was. If she has called, she ironically calls earlier in the evenings regarding something about their household, like an errand, etc.
One of my married friends, who is a self-proclaimed "machista," told me that he doesn't like it when his wife calls him when he's out with the boys. He said to her that if she does that, it makes him look bad in front of his male friends.
Now, this guy has told me that he has never committed adultery (I'm sad to say that I don't think he's being honest - I also think he's too clever to admit it).
He has his "guy time" with his buddies and I think all married men are entitled to that, but sometimes IMO he goes beyond the limits.
I think that his line to his wife is manipulative - it's as if he wants to make her feel bad for suspecting him of being out too late.
BTW, I've been out with him MANY times, and she's never called when we were out late to complain or to ask him where he was. If she has called, she ironically calls earlier in the evenings regarding something about their household, like an errand, etc.
What do you say?
if that's the way he words it, seems it's nothing but stating his opinion and/or how he feels... nothing manipulative about it
if that's the way he words it, seems it's nothing but stating his opinion and/or how he feels... nothing manipulative about it
But what if he DOES cheat on her? What if he uses that as a tactic to make her back off when he's out until 3 or 4AM, ostensibly at Hooter's just chugging beer and having wings, watching pro sports when he's... well, doing something else?
I think the guy's an ass. If she's married to him, she has every right to call him - he's her other half. I agree, I wouldn't want to be nagged, if I were him, but she can't ever call or it cast him in a bad light with his guys? Uh-uh. She should be unavailable to him next time he needs something. Homie don't play dat!
But what if he DOES cheat on her? What if he uses that as a tactic to make her back off when he's out until 3 or 4AM, ostensibly at Hooter's just chugging beer and having wings, watching pro sports when he's... well, doing something else?
If she suspects he's cheating on her, she needs to bail on his ass. Why put up with someone who cheats?
That's not a word I use a lot, but the way you put it, it does sounds manipulative. "Please don't call me while I am out with my friends because they tease me about being whipped and I am too insecure to tell them to stuff it" would be honest, but also maybe too difficult for Mr. Macho.
Speaking as a man who's never married, this is how I see it.
I think that if a man honors his marriage vows without failure, and is honest and open enough with his wife so that she KNOWS he doesn't cheat, that he is not doing anything she wouldn't approve of....then she wouldn't be suspicious.
sure, once in a while. Maybe hubby has a bit too much to drink and passes out at the bar or what not. Or he comes home later than he usually does. I understand these unusual situations might get her to question him.
but overall? If he loves her AND shows it through, among other things, complete fidelity, I don't think a husband would ever have to worry about looking whipped if his wife called... let alone have his wife call in the first place.
Speaking as a man who's never married, this is how I see it.
I think that if a man honors his marriage vows without failure, and is honest and open enough with his wife so that she KNOWS he doesn't cheat, that he is not doing anything she wouldn't approve of....then she wouldn't be suspicious.
sure, once in a while. Maybe hubby has a bit too much to drink and passes out at the bar or what not. Or he comes home later than he usually does. I understand these unusual situations might get her to question him.
but overall? If he loves her AND shows it through, among other things, complete fidelity, I don't think a husband would ever have to worry about looking whipped if his wife called... let alone have his wife call in the first place.
then again - I'm not married. So I don't know.
I disagree, I think you're confusing truth and perspective.
The truth may be that he's faithful, he may try to show it to the best of his ability, but that doesn't mean that her perspective will be the same. The man in this case has no control over his wife's suspicion.
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