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Actually no. Just for the record, I am not into open relationships either. However, I have a close friend who has gotten himself into a situation and we had discussed it. It covers a range of things like, love, security, open relationships. I was curious to hear what people thought about what he is going through. I could not put everything into one post, so I broke it down into a few posts to make it easier to follow. My friend does know about this, and the replies are helping him.
Hell no and double hell no! Anyone that would be in this type
of relationship needs their head examined
Monogamous means you have sex with one person, so if the
person is still haven sex with the wife and the other women then it’s not monogamous.
Who in the hell would be willing in their heart to let the person
they love convert their relationship to an open relationship and
be okay with that (NOT ME)!!!
A trust issue if they now want to dump the person they took a vow
with, I wouldn’t trust that person for sh_it So yes a big trust issue
The OP cleared it up, but I never saw ANYWHERE where marriage was mentioned.....
Assuming that you are single and of the monogamous type.
If someone you knew had an SO (6+ years), and they became attracted to you. And to be intimate with you, they were willing to convert their relationship to an open relationship -with the SO's agreement for whatever reasons.
(a) Would you consider/accept it?
(b) If not, would you re-consider if they told you that you would be the
only outside person they would be with?
(c) After sometime together, if they decided to leave their SO to be with
you, would you consider a relationship with them if they agreed to no
more open relationships? Or would you have a trust issue?
I wouldn't consider it under any circumstances...
first, I wouldn't be a party to someone else's cheating, whether it was with their person's "approval" or not;
second, I would not take "second-place" to anybody.
No way. Sloppy seconds are not for me, nor is coming between people and condoning all the heavy emotions things like this are sure to cause. I have been approached by plenty of married/involved men, and have always said no, even when I was very attracted. The chance of developing feelings for someone who has already exhibited an inability to remain faithful & monogamous is setting yourself up for a painful fall. It is nobler to break things off if you start having feelings for someone else. I would never cheat, (and have never cheated), and feel I deserve to be with someone who is able to reciprocate that loyalty...
Assuming that you are single and of the monogamous type.
If someone you knew had an SO (6+ years), and they became attracted to you. And to be intimate with you, they were willing to convert their relationship to an open relationship -with the SO's agreement for whatever reasons.
(a) Would you consider/accept it?
(b) If not, would you re-consider if they told you that you would be the
only outside person they would be with?
(c) After sometime together, if they decided to leave their SO to be with
you, would you consider a relationship with them if they agreed to no
more open relationships? Or would you have a trust issue?
No. They want to ********* but not split with their SO.
Frankly, I can do better than crappy arrangements like that.
If you are just going after them for sex (not my thing but thats not my decision) then still be prepared for drama. The SO might not actually be told or might be less happy about it than you think.
Oh, one more thing...they are probably still going to have sex with their SO and who knows whom else on occasion so....expect that.
Assuming that you are single and of the monogamous type.
If someone you knew had an SO (6+ years), and they became attracted to you. And to be intimate with you, they were willing to convert their relationship to an open relationship -with the SO's agreement for whatever reasons.
(a) Would you consider/accept it?
(b) If not, would you re-consider if they told you that you would be the
only outside person they would be with?
(c) After sometime together, if they decided to leave their SO to be with
you, would you consider a relationship with them if they agreed to no
more open relationships? Or would you have a trust issue?
I don't see a trust issue here because the person is open about the relationship. While I'd wonder if they'd ever ask me for an open relationship, I think I could trust they woudln't go behind my back...but all of this is moot because I wouldn't, knowingly, become involved with someone in a relationship.
I don't believe in open relationships. I'm not a prude or fuddy-duddy, but it just doesn't meet my conception of a relationship.
Naw, you're not a prude because you don't want to share someone.
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