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Old 05-19-2009, 03:09 AM
 
Location: Houston, Texas
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I think many men want to marry and have children before 30 so they can enjoy fatherhood while still young and healthy. Plus we all want to see our children graduated high school, college and then get married. We want to be physically active when we become grandparents as well.
YES! Someone gets it!
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Old 05-19-2009, 03:14 AM
 
Location: USA
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At age 30, you have a greater chance of getting attacked by a terrorist than getting married. And according to the US Census Bureau, by age 30, over 70% of Americans have been married.

It seems higher as you age. I think at 50, 98% are married.
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Old 05-19-2009, 03:18 AM
 
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YES! Someone gets it!
Someone gets what?

You're not implying that those who choose not to follow this course are ignorant are you?

If that's what you and stac (and anybody else that subscribes to this way of going through life) want to do then by all means go for it. Your life, your choices. Anybody else that doesn't want it aren't stupid or lacking you know, they just choose different things. WHICH is entirely their decision to make. Doesn't make them stupid or smart, just different.
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Old 05-19-2009, 01:00 PM
 
Location: Houston, Texas
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Someone gets what?

You're not implying that those who choose not to follow this course are ignorant are you?
I'm sorry but anyone that puts their career before their relationships does not get the point of life.

My point (which you might not have seen a few pages back) is that a lot of people who marry later on in life do so because they were focused on their careers when they were younger. Then later on they have trouble finding someone, and they start to complain. They wanted to work hard and play hard when they were younger. If you want that your entire life, maybe that's okay, but if you (as a 25 year old) do want to get married one day and you have a casual attitude to relationships you might be pushing that person you were meant to be with away. I think you should always be open-minded and consider every option that comes to you at face value. If you meet a great guy or girl at age 22, why push them away if you start to get serious? A lot of people do that, and frankly, I think that is dumb.
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Old 05-19-2009, 01:03 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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Perhaps relationships aren't quite as important as we make them out to be. There's always time to find someone, and when it's meant to happen, it will.
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Old 05-19-2009, 01:35 PM
 
Location: Delaware...Oi
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Perhaps relationships aren't quite as important as we make them out to be. There's always time to find someone, and when it's meant to happen, it will.

Perhaps I'm not seeing a grander vision here, but the comparison is much like saying "reading is not as important as we make it out to be".

Supposedly justifying your existence by finding a romantic relationship? No, of course not. Nor is being miserable without one.

The cliche rhetoric and catch phrases I seem to always see spouted to both genders does make me a good bit. The usual feel-good message being, work 50hrs a week in a cubicle with little contact aside from the occasional hour long happy-hour with work friends and then rush home to edit your facebook page and it will happen sometime.

If your not happy with how your life is going relationship wise do something to change it, same as with any other aspect of your life. In my personal opinion people really need to view it more as like being in shape. Yes, some at least look relatively in it without trying, but that just is not so for most in our modern society. Change venues, do different things.

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that a lot of people who marry later on in life do so because they were focused on their careers
My view might be skewed here, but IMO that seems to be more with one gender than the other at this point in time. Not because of anything other than buying into said cliche's a bit more frequently.
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Old 05-19-2009, 01:44 PM
 
Location: SRQ ~ Siesta Key
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i will be thirty in a few months time and i reckon i should have been married by now. most persons my age are, or have been.

but i know what i have to do to change this. i've started to get to understand women better, so i'm going to make more women friends. and from there, maybe in a few years i'd get married.
I don't think men should get married before 30 at the minimum. Actually, women either. I think the 20's are a great time to finish education, travel & have the time of your life. Marriage in your thirties is cool, IMO, because you've had your twenties to yourself and you should know what turns you on/off in all faucets of your life; if you don't know what you want by then, you may never know.

People get tied down too soon & then regret it as they hit their 40's. They think they've missed something; they did: Experience.
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Old 05-19-2009, 02:18 PM
 
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It seems higher as you age. I think at 50, 98% are married.
I wouldn't trust your hunch on this.
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Old 05-19-2009, 02:24 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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I don't spend any time with people FROM work, OUTSIDE work. Work is work, social is social, and the twain shall not meet.
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