asking out a woman in another department - how should I go about it? (dating, advice)
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There is this woman in HR, about 35, who I like. she is witty, bright and is a classy dresser and has style. We talk now and then, and she seems like a nice person. We also have in common liking rock music, and having familial roots in the same place.
I don't work in HR, but I want to ask her out for a drink to get to know her better.
There is this woman in HR, about 35, who I like. she is witty, bright and is a classy dresser and has style. We talk now and then, and she seems like a nice person. We also have in common liking rock music, and having familial roots in the same place.
I don't work in HR, but I want to ask her out for a drink to get to know her better.
How should I go about doing this?
First, you should never bring romance into your work life
Second, SHE WORKS IN HR. She could build a case on you so fast for harrassment that you would be out of a job before MAY ends
I don't get how it is harassment. workplace dating may not always be wise, but it's still common.
But if it can get me into trouble, I wouldn't risk it.
Nothing risky here, dude. Asking her to grab a bite does not account for rape
Increase the music talk, then ask her to grab lunch some time.
Or.......... fake a payroll/HR problem. Try to refer an imaginary friend. Fake a resume or something, or get your friends to help you. A friend in need is a friend indeed.
Act. It must be oscar-worthy.
Thank her for clearing your doubt, accepting/hopefully rejecting a miserable resume. Make it miserable.
"Thanks so much, you know I must buy you lunch for helping me out, you free some time?"
I have a Ph.D in charming office ladies. Keep me posted
You should break the ice with her by asking her of she hates her parents and wish they would burn in hell for all eternity. You might also want to ask her if she has problems with everyone staring and laughing at her.
What you need to do is establish some sort of communication link with her. Just chat her up alittle and before you leave give her your phone number of facebook profile.
Makes it alot easier to contact her. Also you can just casually talk with her over the phone which makes her more comfortable around you.
First, you should never bring romance into your work life
Second, SHE WORKS IN HR. She could build a case on you so fast for harrassment that you would be out of a job before MAY ends
My advice would be for you to SAY NOTHING
Uhm, what? A good percentage of people that stick are met at work. I can understand using that as a ground-rule for some, and if it's someone you have to face everyday, then yes, might be a good rule to follow simply due to the awkwardness that could ensue should either you be outright told no, or it not working out for whatever reason later.
People have seen far too much tabloid turd, asking someone for a drink, stating you have an interest in someone hardly constitutes the "Is this a pubic-hair in my coke" Thomas deal.
Do people really think this way? Or do they feel they just lack the tact to say or do something that would not be considered offensive?
You should break the ice with her by asking her of she hates her parents and wish they would burn in hell for all eternity. You might also want to ask her if she has problems with everyone staring and laughing at her.
First, you should never bring romance into your work life
Second, SHE WORKS IN HR. She could build a case on you so fast for harrassment that you would be out of a job before MAY ends
My advice would be for you to SAY NOTHING
This is good advice, but I disagree with the "all or nothing" last sentence.
You need to get it to "friends" level first. I seriously think that most people who have linked up romantically in the workplace have COLLABORATED on something. That collaboration is what brought down the walls. At that point, you have (theoretically) worked past the harrassment issue that could come from "hey, ya wanna go out?"
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