Sexy but boring.... (woman, lover, American, personality)

[Morphous01]

Originally Posted by Connecticut Pam

How can you judge a girl who you have only recently met as being boring? How much time have you spent together? What did YOU offer to the conversation? Perhaps she finds you boring and can't think of anything to say to you? Why don't YOU change the conversation to something else when she starts chatting about her work? She probably talks about work because maybe you are not contributing much to the conversation?

Sure, we probably all have had a similar experience. I don't think anyone hits it off first shot and talks half the night about a thousand different things. You have to keep the conversation moving just as much as she does.

I don't think it is fair for you to say she isn't mentally compatible with you until you give this a bigger chance to get off the ground and put more effort into developing a conversation with her. Perhaps she is running out of stuff to talk about, perhaps she is shy?? Who knows. Give it some more time and then if it still doesn't work out for you, end it here.

Next time you meet someone, make sure you are giving as much as you are expecting back in the development of the relationship,.
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Yes, you are right CP she is shy. And you are right again in that I may be boring. In fact, it's safe to say that for a large percentage of single women on the market I'm not the guy who they would consider as fun as I don’t drink, smoke, go to clubs or spend my waking time looking to be entertained.

As far a judging people I run a small business that deals with people on a personal level and over the years I have become pretty good with evaluating people. So even though I have had a few conversations with her I feel pretty strong in my evaluation.

[Morphous01]

Originally Posted by ChessieMom

What's the age difference? You speak about her and "her parents"....does she still live at home? If she is still a "girl", and you are "a grown man", then there's your answer.

We are the same age and she has her own home.

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by Morphous01

We are the same age and she has her own home.

Well then, probably just a lack of chemistry there. Sometimes it's just not there when you want it to be.

[yoyogirl]

Maybe she is just trying to be conservative because her parents know you and she doesn't want to let her wild side show until she is more comfortable wth you. I know I am defintely more conservative and slow to open up when I am wth a guy my parents set me up wth. I'm sure they interpret that as boring, but if they only knew. Maybe if you are attracted to her and like other things about her, gve her a little more time. Maybe you should try to initiate a more interesting conversation. She may think you're boring.

[cuinlalaland]

I'll bet a ton of girls thought I was boring or dumb because I don't usually open up a whole lot at first either. It works like a filter that puts off the ones who aren't willing to invest a little time and effort. Could be the same thing with this girl.

Another possibility is that she just doesn't get out much so she doesn't have much to talk about other than work. There's a big difference between someone with a limited number of experiences to talk about, and someone who's mentally insufficient.

[temptation001]

Tell her you don't think you are compatible with her, and move on. Do so before she starts liking you more and getting her hopes up too high. If she likes you.

[DFWgal]

Originally Posted by Morphous01

Hay people,

Recently, I met a super nice girl who has a stable income and life. I actually met this girl through her parents because they though I was good match however in the conversations I have with this girl even though I find her extremely attractive she is VERY boring.

Imagine that person with you the rest of your life Hm, I would say... "neeeeext!"

Originally Posted by ChessieMom

Well then, probably just a lack of chemistry there. Sometimes it's just not there when you want it to be.

yep yep.

[GTOlover]

Originally Posted by Morphous01

Hay people,


Recently, I met a super nice girl who has a stable income and life. I actually met this girl through her parents because they though I was good match however in the conversations I have with this girl even though I find her extremely attractive she is VERY boring.


When I say boring, for me, it's that she has nothing really to talk about and if she does talk it's about work; an office job. After a few conversations even though she is hot I have lost the desire to see her and the next time I see her parents It's going to be a little odd if they ask me anything about there daughter and why I havent talken her out.

I think being with someone you enjoy being with is what makes it work after being with someone for over a few years
As a grown man, I know what I need for my life so I'm not here to ask "So what should I do"...lol. More or less, I'm here to see if anybody had any similar experiences and I'm curious as to what you did when you met somebody who was nice but just not mentally compatible with you.

hmm I would date someone you can have fun being with if you are bored now then get out and find someone who has the same sesnse of adveture as you

[professorsenator]

Originally Posted by temptation001

Tell her you don't think you are compatible with her, and move on. Do so before she starts liking you more and getting her hopes up too high. If she likes you.

100% correct. Politely say goodbye to her. She may be physically attractive, but when it comes to a relationship true compatibility and connectedness matter infinitely more. Not that physical appearance doesn't matter (who doesn't want to be with someone attractive?), but looks are too often WAY overrated.

[orangeapple]

Yep...I have met guys who were gorgeous but boring and/or stupid. I think there's someone out there they click with, but it wasn't me.

Being very reserved at first, I imagine I could come off as boring to some, but then I figure if they can't bring out my charming side, maybe they aren't for me either.