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We're not talking first dates, we're talking the long-term commitment of marriage.
Why wouldn't I marry a guy who I didn't know their income or credit rating? Well gee, let's start with the thought of buying or renting a home to live in. Not going to happen if the guy has no income or bad credit.
Hmmm, and then there's the good old IRS, who would think nothing of seizing a joint tax return for back taxes, even if the wife always paid hers.
And then we have judgements, they will attach to any jointly owned property, even if one spouse had nothing to do with it. On top of that in a community property state, "what's mine is mine and what's yours is mine."
I wouldn't go into any type of partnership, be it business or marriage without knowing the finances of the other party. And frankly anyone going into a marriage thinking their income should be a secret isn't ready for that type of commitment or level of trust.
Hi annerk,
I suppose it could not hurt just before marriage. Though as I said it wasn't necessary. There are no records of cruelty to old girls friends, torturing animals or drug history etc. My brother did actually owe back taxes from his first wife. The problem was he should have already known since he ignored all the other signs. Only the odd socio-path actually can hide their personality for any length of time. Many people will even tell you they are bad. Most people just can't disengage from the emotional investment they have made.
I would certainly think that dating would be lengthy enough that some financial matters would be evident - unless you are marrying a perfect stranger. But no, I don't believe these things have any place as a determining factor prior to marriage. Like I said, just my two cents.
My husband and I dated for 14 years and we never once discussed our income nor debt. Neither of us made much and we both knew it.
I can't even imagine asking anyone how much they make. It sounds very wrong on every level.
Hmm. I have no idea how I would have stayed married for the last 34 years if my wife didn't know how much I make, what that can reasonably be expected to buy, what my future financial prospects were, and how much I hoped to save for retirement. These are basics, as important as deciding what religion (or, in my case, lack of one) to raise our kids.
What are their jobs?
If it's a genius type PhD that only makes university coin, I'd take Mr Handsome.
I can't handle stupid, no matter how rich. Which I don't consider $150k, btw.
Hmm. I have no idea how I would have stayed married for the last 34 years if my wife didn't know how much I make, what that can reasonably be expected to buy, what my future financial prospects were, and how much I hoped to save for retirement. These are basics, as important as deciding what religion (or, in my case, lack of one) to raise our kids.
I'm amazed. Why are these threads resurrected from 2009, FIVE years ago??
We already have enough of the same threads spewing the same garbage.
I'm a good looking guy, 41 and a teacher. I'm realatively recently divorced. I have no problem attracting women.
Then they find out I'm a teacher.
Then they are gone.
Hope this helps.
You don't want those women. Teachers make a middle-class income and have job security. What's wrong with that?
My ex-boss, who made in seven figures when she retired, was married to a teacher. Good luck.
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