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No way! If anything I feel more confident when I'm going about my business alone. I notice that women check me out a LOT more when I'm alone then when I'm with friends or family.
Alone, with friends, whatever. I don't care. I have a lot of self-esteem and I don't give it a second thought if people wonder why I'm alone. I'm perfectly comfortable in my own skin.
OMG no way. Take it from me, I'm very social and personable, and I'm still somewhat alone. I enjoy the hermit life at times. Do people gravitate and wish to be friendly with me, yes, sometimes that does happen.
But being somewhat hermitized is an amazing feeling. Another poster commented that society is really becoming more narcissistic and sociopathic, I like to say toxic demeanor or other terms like jerks or mean-spirited. People assume it is the sniper or the angry person always shouting at people, but those aren't the only types of toxic or mean-spirited people. There are many varieties and forms. I think as we get wise and more informed we become more aware of the idiots and morons that are in our society. If there could be a holocaust, a Jonestown, and other injustices then yes mean-spiritedness can live on in many different forms.
We hermits learn not to blame ourselves so much, but to move onward with our on lives, feeding ourselves, bathing ourselves, taking ourselves out for fun, working ourselves tired to earn, etc. That's life. The rewarding part to life.
The relationships of today of any kind are parasitic. One person or group gets all of the glory and attention, while the other one gets trampled on and treated like a door mat.
It's common place. Why would you want to part of that garbage?
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Because of my unusual personality and poor social skills I really do not have many friends. Even though I talk about my friends, I have determined that these men and women are really just people I work with, neighbors, and business associates. Usually when I am out in public I am alone.
I walk through the mall alone, eat lunch alone and walk up and down the street alone. I am starting to feel self conscious and lonely. I think people are starting to notice that I am all alone most of the time. It makes it even harder to make friends.
Would you feel isolated or ill at ease if you were to eat at a sit down restaurant all alone? It seems like everyone I see is always with tons of friends except for me.
Because of my unusual personality and poor social skills I really do not have many friends. Even though I talk about my friends, I have determined that these men and women are really just people I work with, neighbors, and business associates. Usually when I am out in public I am alone.
I walk through the mall alone, eat lunch alone and walk up and down the street alone. I am starting to feel self conscious and lonely. I think people are starting to notice that I am all alone most of the time. It makes it even harder to make friends.
Would you feel isolated or ill at ease if you were to eat at a sit down restaurant all alone? It seems like everyone I see is always with tons of friends except for me.
Isn't this just the most intelligent information ya'll have ever got. I mean, words of wisdom. Socrates and Einstein have gotten together, and created a miracle. We need to bow down and hear the pearls of platinum gold as they roll off the silver tongue of "Weakened Traveler" The HR GOOOROOO.
Personally I don't feel bad being alone. Of course that is because I choose to be alone when I want to. If I wanted I could always call up a friend to have lunch with or whatever.
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I walk through the mall alone, eat lunch alone and walk up and down the street alone. I am starting to feel self conscious and lonely. I think people are starting to notice that I am all alone most of the time. It makes it even harder to make friends.
Well my advice to you is to make friends who you can do stuff like that. Remember, you are CHOOSING to be alone when you don't go out and make friends.
Because of my unusual personality and poor social skills I really do not have many friends. Even though I talk about my friends, I have determined that these men and women are really just people I work with, neighbors, and business associates. Usually when I am out in public I am alone.
I walk through the mall alone, eat lunch alone and walk up and down the street alone. I am starting to feel self conscious and lonely. I think people are starting to notice that I am all alone most of the time. It makes it even harder to make friends.
Would you feel isolated or ill at ease if you were to eat at a sit down restaurant all alone? It seems like everyone I see is always with tons of friends except for me.
Oh my. I've done so much traveling on my own I feel like that is my natural state! Nope...I am totally comfortable going pretty much anywhere by myself. Even at my advanced age.
And why on earth would you feel "embarrassed"?? That makes no sense at all. You mean you only see people walking around in the company of others??? Of course not. Totally don't get the embarrassment.
Because of my unusual personality and poor social skills I really do not have many friends. Even though I talk about my friends, I have determined that these men and women are really just people I work with, neighbors, and business associates. Usually when I am out in public I am alone.
I walk through the mall alone, eat lunch alone and walk up and down the street alone. I am starting to feel self conscious and lonely. I think people are starting to notice that I am all alone most of the time. It makes it even harder to make friends.
Would you feel isolated or ill at ease if you were to eat at a sit down restaurant all alone? It seems like everyone I see is always with tons of friends except for me.
You are not alone. Sounds a lot like me
My whole life I have been getting transferred. It's my job. I have several friends and I'm a hyper-total social animal. Yet, I dislike hanging out with people, except those who are important in my life.
On the restaurant, everyone does not want to eat outside every day. Many are money-conscious and prefer to eat at their desks. I literally live in the restaurants, and people frankly tend to buy out of my lifestyle.
They always come only when you are buying lunch. No going dutch. And if you spend for everyone every day, you are doomed
Fundamentalists at my prior college hated me. They knew I was gay and different. They wouldn't allow me to be their friend. Sometimes it is out of your control.
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Well my advice to you is to make friends who you can do stuff like that. Remember, you are CHOOSING to be alone when you don't go out and make friends.
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