online dating question (woman, older, call, couple)

[bbrian12]

so i talked to a girl on plenty of fish yesterday
she is pretty, a couple years older than me, same music, same sports, and so on
we exchanged a couple emails
the usual
hi, how are you, where do you live, bla bla bla
turns out she lived right in my neighborhood

i never did the online dating thing

ill ask you all your opinion

what should i do?
should i ask her if she wants to go out?
go where?
when / how soon?

plenty of bars ,coffe shops, and parks n the area

im not a game player so im not into the 3 day rule or any of that stupid stuff

[bbrian12]

this is actully the first time any one ever contacted me on plenty of fish
i been on there a few months

[Mathguy]

I generally try to meet right away. Otherwise you can spend a lot of time and then not have chemistry.

I would ask her out on a date. Dinner, coffee, something where you can sit and talk a bit.

I agree it's rare to be contacted as a guy on POF. My current gf contacted me though...the last one I contacted.

[ttz]

just talk to her and offer to take her out for a coffee sometime. if she wants to this soon she will accept, if she doesn't (as it is too soon for her) she will avoid it or tell you not yet. Take it from there. Some people like to meet sooner than later to see if there is a connection, while others are afraid and will drag it out for months trying to get to know you and then when you meet no sparks... I prefer to meet soon. Good luck

[ncsualum2004]

I agree with meeting for coffee. Usually a coffee shop will be well lit, not too loud, and you can make it short or as long as you want. Plus it's a very public space so it's safer for everyone.

[future1]

POF has some interesting characters and if she has been on there a while she will have developed her own comfort system for when to meet. My suggestion would be for a phone call or two and then coffee during the day if possible. Make an offer with some choices-phone calls vs coffee meet up and let her pick what works for her. Be sure what you offer is something you are already comfortable doing. Good luck. POF, since it is free, has had a few problems with game players and people pretending to be the opposite gender for kicks. Nothing personal but it will tend to make people more cautious

[killer2021]

Just meet for coffee and make it brief.

If a woman has to use the internet to meet guys, something is seriously wrong. Generally speaking at least.

[NYC1DAY]

Originally Posted by bbrian12

so i talked to a girl on plenty of fish yesterday
she is pretty, a couple years older than me, same music, same sports, and so on
we exchanged a couple emails
the usual
hi, how are you, where do you live, bla bla bla
turns out she lived right in my neighborhood

i never did the online dating thing

ill ask you all your opinion

what should i do?
should i ask her if she wants to go out?
go where?
when / how soon?

plenty of bars ,coffe shops, and parks n the area

im not a game player so im not into the 3 day rule or any of that stupid stuff

LOL. This is the worst scenario possible

This chick is going to be stalking you now. And if something does go serious betwen the two of you then she will be popping in on you during all hours of the day...... easy to spend the night, etc

It reminds me of the Seinfeld episode where Jerry got freaked out because Elaine wanted to move into his building

And if you don't call her then you might be known as the neighborhood jerk. Have fun with that situation

[MMichelle]

Ask her out for coffee. - just coffee
Meet at a coffee shop and stay for no more than 45 minutes. If things are going well ask her you can call her?
Give her a call, keep the conversation to about 30 min. & if it's still going well -- ask her out for lunch or dinner. This would be the first "date". Keep it to a meal (lunch or dinner) so you can talk and learn about each other. Things should unfold from there.

[bbrian12]

so i sent a simple email
would you like to meet for a drink or a coffee somewhere around the neighborhood

she replies
ok what do you want to do

so i reply
how bout we meet at the coffee shop down the street or one of the local bars

so...
i havent heard back yet
so we shall see


i figured around the nieghborhood somewhere
cause its close for both of us
why go far away when we got everything we need right here