Is he blowing me off or could there be a good reason? (dating, guys)

[artsyguy]

I'm not being judgmental of the OP because I think she is dealing with some very convoluted people and she maybe in a convoluted or anxious state of mind herself.

Originally Posted by ChessieMom

She has started several on the same topics. Maybe she she has memory issues.

[KelsieB]

As stupid as it sounds, I think all you ladies need to watch "He's Just Not That Into You" Its gives you a nice reality slap straight in the face. If he's into you and wants to spend time with you. He will make sure it happens! The games just aren't worth it! Good luck!

[artsyguy]

Most of the time when men want to be with you it's like for some agenda or opportunistic reason. At least in my past cases.

Originally Posted by KelsieB

As stupid as it sounds, I think all you ladies need to watch "He's Just Not That Into You" Its gives you a nice reality slap straight in the face. If he's into you and wants to spend time with you. He will make sure it happens! The games just aren't worth it! Good luck!

[shania]

I think the problem is when these things happen, when guys fail to come through for some reason, the women often feel like they want to say something or have the last word so that he doesn't just get away with it. Obviously, the mature way to handle it is to just go on with your life and forget him. But some women feel like he needs to be confronted long enough to be told he's a jerk or something. I don't bother with that, but I talked to a friend today who can't let stuff like this go as easily.

[Chowhound]

Maybe he just hit it and quit it.

Isn't that what the kids say these days?

[MMichelle]

I think a phone call would have been better than sending him a couple of text messages. But what's done is done.

You should make no attempt to contact him again.

[Connecticut Pam]

Originally Posted by yoyogirl

I've been seeing a guy and on Monday he said he was going to come over to my house this weekend either Friday or Saturday. I hadn't anything from him since then and today is Saturday after 6:00 pm. I texted him twice today to see if he's coming and I haven't heard from him.What should I do? I can understand maybe something came up he wants to do more, but he can at least text me with an excuse like that he's sick? How rude is it to leave me hanging without a word?He's the one who made the plans in the first place too. Should I be mad or am I overreacting? Could there be a good reason?

I wouldn't be mad at this guy for not calling or not showing up until you find out what happened. I would definitely NOT go out with him after this episode because of the rudeness factor of him not calling or texting or even emailing you what has gone on. You did your part, you texted him to see what his deal was, now just leave it alone. There is never a good excuse for rudeness and if he simply changed his mind about going out, then he could have texted that back to you. Personally, I would dump the whole idea of him.

[Woof Woof Woof!]

Maybe he had another booty call.

[Brandon26pdx]

Originally Posted by Belinda_Cooperstone1

Whether or not he is in to her he needs to stop being a a coward and let her know.

Nah he doesn't. Flaking out on someone is a pretty clear explanation of how you feel about them.

[yoyogirl]

Thanks for everyone's help. It's just confusing because on Monday, when I saw him, HE is the one who invited himself over to my house this weekend. And he told me he was gonna come over this weekend.

If he didn't want to be with me, he didn't have to invite himself over. If he felt he had to say something about getting together again even if he didn't want to, he could have just said "Let's do it again soon."

Obviously on Monday he knew he wanted to see me again and made plans to. I don't understand what could have changed for him in four days. Even if another girl came into his life or something, or something else came up he wanted to do instead, why not just at least text me an excuse or say he couldn't come after all? It's not like he hasn't done that before.

I just don't understand what this guy is doing. What is bugging me is just not understanding. I have other guys I'm seeing and I'm gonna move on but there is this lack of closure now. Even if it's a sex only r/ship I deserve the courtesy of at least a cancellation text, no? Me and this guy have known each other for months now. Not like we met last week and had a one night stand.