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I think the best thing to do is back off the sex for the immediate future. Make sure he knows that it's not a deal breaker if he doesn't perform right away - maybe tell him, let's try and if it doesn't happen no big deal, you'll eventually learn what each other like and he'll get more comfortable. Chances are he's just uncomfortable with you right now and nervous he's not going to be able to perform, which can turn into a viscious cyle if you pressure him. As someone else said, if he's getting an erection, doubt it's ED. Most likely it's a mental thing, some women think all guys just spring wood at the sight of a naked woman. A mental block is just as much of a problem as a physical one. If it keeps happening, I'd suggest he sees a doctor to make sure it's not physical. If it's not the doctor could still prescribe Viagra, he could use it for a while until he feels less pressure, becomes more comfortable and confident. Then he probably won't need it anymore.
If you really like him, it's worth the effort to try to get to the bottom of it and try to make it work. Good luck!
I had a similar incident, it so happened I wasn't really really attracted to this chick although she was very very pretty and she ooozed sexyness from everywhere.
I had a similar incident, it so happened I wasn't really really attracted to this chick although she was very very pretty and she ooozed sexyness from everywhere.
I think I mentioned this in other posts but this happened to a friend of mine. I think he was on meds that he couldn't talk about.
This happened to my girlfriend with the guy she was dating.
She tried to make all kinds of excuses, he's on meds, he's this, he's that...as it turns out, he just wasn't that into her.
He also never took himself off the internet site where they met; my conclusion, he was boffing other chicks.
If the OP and her man are both attracted to each other, it shouldn't matter whether it's two days, two weeks or two months...there shouldn't be any problems staying hard. Something is not right.
This is not a time to be shy about asking 20 questions.
Right!! If she took her clothes off for this man, then she has a right pose a question. If sex isn't important, then that's a girlfriend. Do you need another female friend. This is a no brainer! I've dated a guy with the same problem. We talked about it. He said, it's not you, it's me...give me 20 minutes. I'm thinking 20 minutes I could be home. To lay there and fourplay is great. Everything is HOT! Next thing you know, pee wee didn't get the memo. I stopped having sex with him, but I tried to turn him into a girlfriend. Took him shopping and eating. That didn't work. Because, he wanted to have sex. You can't repair this.
I'm thinking that maybe y'all started having sex too soon, before he was comfortable with you (and vice-versa). I'd recommend that, if you like him and want to continue seeing him, you talk to him frankly about "starting over" and focus on getting to know one another better without sex.
Agree 100000%!
I read the OP say something to the effect of she didn't want to talk to him about it yet! what??? You shouldn't be having sex with someone you don't trust, period, and that is what it comes down to.
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To lay there and fourplay is great. Everything is HOT! Next thing you know, pee wee didn't get the memo. I stopped having sex with him, but I tried to turn him into a girlfriend. Took him shopping and eating. That didn't work. Because, he wanted to have sex. You can't repair this.
