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06-02-2009, 09:55 PM
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I'm not sure if this guy is my boyfriend or not?
I've been sleeping with this guy for a few months. He told me he only sleeps with one girl at a time because he doesn't want to catch anything. He also said he's happy with me and doesn't want to look for anyone else. He didn't tell me I couldn't sleep with anyone else, but do you think he expects me to be exclusive with him? (that's fine with me by the way.) Also I told him I was going to Europe to stay with a friend and he asked if it was a guy. And when he found out I was jealous about girls that flirt with him he got really happy.
So does it sound like we are exclusive? Are we basically boyfriend/girlfriend? Do you think he doesn't want me to sleep with any other guy? Usually I don't have a problem with sex outside a r/ship and nonmonogamy but I actually really like him.
PS He did agree we could be boyfriend/girlfriend once because I asked but then I changed my mind. And he has invited me out with his friends and out to dinner and stuff. Thanks!  |
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06-02-2009, 09:58 PM
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How does sleeping with one girl at a time guarantee he won't catch anything? That makes no sense.
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06-02-2009, 10:00 PM
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Originally Posted by yoyogirl
I've been sleeping with this guy for a few months. He told me he only sleeps with one girl at a time because he doesn't want to catch anything. He also said he's happy with me and doesn't want to look for anyone else. He didn't tell me I couldn't sleep with anyone else, but do you think he expects me to be exclusive with him? (that's fine with me by the way.) Also I told him I was going to Europe to stay with a friend and he asked if it was a guy. And when he found out I was jealous about girls that flirt with him he got really happy.
So does it sound like we are exclusive? Are we basically boyfriend/girlfriend? Do you think he doesn't want me to sleep with any other guy? Usually I don't have a problem with sex outside a r/ship and nonmonogamy but I actually really like him.
PS He did agree we could be boyfriend/girlfriend once because I asked but then I changed my mind. And he has invited me out with his friends and out to dinner and stuff. Thanks! |
This sounds like the young er version asking for advice....ha! Again....I`m old fashioned here, so my advice would be if your screwing one guy, why not leave it be? Just because your going off to Europe, does not mean that you or he can screw the neighborhood. 
If you feel there is something there, then why not just ask? 
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06-02-2009, 10:03 PM
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Thanks yankeegirl...yeah I'm 31, but my maturity got stunted around I dunno 15ish I think. lol. That's good advice though. I guess I'll just stick with him for awhile. He's pretty good at it and freaken hot.  |
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06-02-2009, 10:03 PM
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If you feel there is something there, then why not just ask? |
No kidding. If there is one thing I absolutely do not miss about being single it's all the high school games that are played in relationships. |
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06-02-2009, 10:06 PM
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Thanks yankeegirl...yeah I'm 31, but my maturity got stunted around I dunno 15ish I think. lol. That's good advice though. I guess I'll just stick with him for awhile. He's pretty good at it and freaken hot. |
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06-02-2009, 10:06 PM
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I've been sleeping with this guy for a few months. He told me he only sleeps with one girl at a time because he doesn't want to catch anything. He also said he's happy with me and doesn't want to look for anyone else. He didn't tell me I couldn't sleep with anyone else, but do you think he expects me to be exclusive with him? (that's fine with me by the way.) Also I told him I was going to Europe to stay with a friend and he asked if it was a guy. And when he found out I was jealous about girls that flirt with him he got really happy.
So does it sound like we are exclusive? Are we basically boyfriend/girlfriend? Do you think he doesn't want me to sleep with any other guy? Usually I don't have a problem with sex outside a r/ship and nonmonogamy but I actually really like him.
PS He did agree we could be boyfriend/girlfriend once because I asked but then I changed my mind. And he has invited me out with his friends and out to dinner and stuff. Thanks! |
Holy crap. You are 25, right???? Have you ever heard of actually talking to the person you are sleeping with and asking them??? This isn't something you ask a bunch of strangers on a forum. I mean you can...but the person you need to talk to is HIM. Do you want to be exclusive? Or do you want to sleep around? Whatever the case, for crying out loud, call him up and discuss your relationship with him. Now.
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06-02-2009, 10:06 PM
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How does sleeping with one girl at a time guarantee he won't catch anything? That makes no sense.
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That popped out at me as well. |
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06-02-2009, 10:16 PM
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How does sleeping with one girl at a time guarantee he won't catch anything? That makes no sense.
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Yes, I think he must be on the mentally slow side. |
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06-02-2009, 10:24 PM
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I think his thinking goes...this girl is clean, I'm clean, we're only sleeping with each other, so we won't catch anything ...don't you think?
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