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Here's the truth. If one person in a couple keeps putting off getting married for some reason, then those two people *should not* get married.
That's probably true, but in this case perhaps they shouldn't be together, either. IMO, it hardly ever is a mutual decision - it's one person's decision the other one puts up with.
Here's the truth. If one person in a couple keeps putting off getting married for some reason, then those two people *should not* get married.
Thank you for that insightful comment... Twenty years together, extremely happy , faithful and utterly devoted to each other and we have been through 10 years of me having Leukaemia.
I guess we're not committed enough to each other though.
I must go and cancel our wedding plans this minute , you have really convinced me..... Darn here I was thinking he and I had a great relationship but I guess I was wrong.
Some people really do have a twisted view of what Love truly is about. And Marriage by the sound of it too. Keep your "truth," I prefer my reality.
My uncle and his girlfriend have been happily living together since 1991 and they have never officially been married. They have been living together for so long that I have started referring to my uncle's girlfriend as my aunt.
Thank you for that insightful comment... Twenty years together, extremely happy , faithful and utterly devoted to each other and we have been through 10 years of me having Leukaemia.
I guess we're not committed enough to each other though.
I must go and cancel our wedding plans this minute , you have really convinced me..... Darn here I was thinking he and I had a great relationship but I guess I was wrong.
Some people really do have a twisted view of what Love truly is about. And Marriage by the sound of it too. Keep your "truth," I prefer my reality.
There are exceptions to every rule, but I've heard and read enough sad, sort of apologetic and explanatory announcements by women in this situation that make me think they're not all that happy with the status quo.
There are exceptions to every rule, but I've heard and read enough sad, sort of apologetic and explanatory announcements by women in this situation that make me think they're not all that happy with the status quo.
Most couples I know only got married after years, and years of living together and are living very happy lives. Most couple I know who got married fairly quickly after meeting each other without living together are now divorced.
To me getting to really know someone and seeing them at their worst as well as their best is a crucial component of compatibility "assessment".
When someone has stuck with you for years despite having no legal "duty" to do so, it shows a certain level commitment. Getting married is very easy.
Having a mature and long lasting relationship is not.
All marriage is , is a legal piece of paper which gives you certain rights cohabitation may not. And a societal construct. There is nothing remotely natural about it. It is all in the mind mostly.
As far as I am concerned I have been "morally" and mentally wedded to my fiance. I love him , he loves me and we have had a great relationship with all the ups and downs it entails. That to me is love and commitment.
Marriage does not mean your spouse loves you, will be faithful or look after you if you are sick and vulnerable. All it means is you have a piece of paper which decrees you are married.
The modern rates of divorce are in my opinion so high because people marry too soon, get caught in some domestic fantasy about life together and have unrealistic expectations encouraged by a general lack of knowledge about the other person.
Living together allows you to see someone warts and all before marriage.
You my friend are like a fine wine, some like it and some don't.
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Thankfully! 
