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Weekend Traveler · 06-05-2009, 03:34 PM

One of my sisters is extremely overweight. She is close to 300 pounds and in all honesty she is just plain ugly. When she is out in public I notice that people tend to stare, giggle and are just plain rude to her. It must be terrible to be her because I can just feel the hostility.

I notice that when I am with her some of the negative vibes that are directed at her because of her weight and general appearance is also directed at me. It is almost like people are saying, "what are you doing with her"

So, are you embarrassed to be seen with people who are fat, frumpy and ugly?

Dbl-r · 06-05-2009, 03:42 PM

I am a wee bit embarrassed for you to use her as a tool to create a post if this is real.
Some things are better left unsaid.

samston · 06-05-2009, 03:45 PM

Even though it's your sister, i can understand your point of view here.

But even if somebody is ugly and fat, it doesn't mean they should be harassed. I think prejudice against physical appearance may be one of the very last prejudices to be lessened. I reckon as human beings, we are naturally aesthetic and judge on appearance. I sometimes find i would feel brighter walking with, or even looking at, a good looking woman over a less attractive one.

the one · 06-05-2009, 03:50 PM

no! let some one say something about one of my loved ones.

i give them dirty looks and snickers back. i know its not the grown thing to do, but if an adult thinks they can talk about my family or friends like that, then i can talk about their ugliness as a person. not physical ugliness, but their shallowness and superficialness.

go to bat for your sister.

and if it was that much of a concern you would work with her to make her healthier.

get her to eat better. do excercise. its not about looks its about HEALTH.

forget the people who act unkindly towards you. they have the problem, not you or your sister.

i love my family, fat, dark, skinny, short, cross eyed. they are my family. dont nobody talk about them like that and think its ok.

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Originally Posted by Weekend Traveler

One of my sisters is extremely overweight. She is close to 300 pounds and in all honesty she is just plain ugly. When she is out in public I notice that people tend to stare, giggle and are just plain rude to her. It must be terrible to be her because I can just feel the hostility.

I notice that when I am with her some of the negative vibes that are directed at her because of her weight and general appearance is also directed at me. It is almost like people are saying, "what are you doing with her"

So, are you embarrassed to be seen with people who are fat, frumpy and ugly?

JBT1980 · 06-05-2009, 04:08 PM

I refuse to go out in public with somebody over 230

Twinkle Toes · 06-05-2009, 04:10 PM

This is such a ridiculous topic that I don't even think I can comment - except to say that I'm embarrassed for the OP for having brought this up.

artsyguy · 06-05-2009, 04:10 PM

It is more acceptable for a guy to be morbid obese than a woman.

If you are embarrassed by your sister, then I would suggest you teach her some social skills, health and fitness skills, and give her a make over. Be part of the solution. Get her hair done and buy her some fashionable accessories. Don't take her back to those places where people are rude and hostile.

Rosie O' Donnell is considered obese and ugly but she made it huge at one time. Teach her to develop a sense of humor or comedy routine like Rosie and Rosanne Bar did.