For YOU, is Marriage necessary?

[sincere1782]

depends on my mood that day...lol

[Currency Pair Crocodile]

Originally Posted by normie

You can work hard at raising kids and still be selfish. Being selfish has to do with why you're doing something, not how hard you work.

The definition of selfish is "concerned primarily with one's own interests." A person who has children to leave a legacy is, by definition, selfish. You are literally doing something because it benefits your self.

At the same time, a person who does not have children because they want to have more time (or money) for themselves is also being selfish. BTW being selfish is not necessarily a bad thing, it's really only a problem when it gets in the way of the common good.

Considering that "fool" wasn't really "fool" in the middle ages which manifests in the idiocy of the English language, skew it all you want, normie.

While I hand you the liberty to corrupt your own instance of the "fool" phenomenon, let me help you?

Bah, Bah, a black Sheep,
Have you any Wool?
Yes, selfish am I,
Three Bags full,
One for my master,
One for my dame,
One for the little boy
Who lives down the lane.

Happy figurativity!

[Greatday]

Originally Posted by KevK

I am married to my wife but only because she is Canadian and to get her into the country, I had to marry her. If she was already here, we would just live together. Marriage to me is a waste of time and totally not important.

waste of time and totally not important

Such a romantic Kev - seriously though - marriage is a life long commitment - a sign of true love. If someone is unwilling to show that commitment, then their true love for the other person should be questioned.

[KevK]

Originally Posted by Greatday

waste of time and totally not important

Such a romantic Kev - seriously though - marriage is a life long commitment - a sign of true love. If someone is unwilling to show that commitment, then their true love for the other person should be questioned.

Most people who marry don't stay marry so I question the value of it as a commitment. It is not about the paper but about the love! Don't need any paper for that. And don't need a big pricey wedding.

[Blue's Love]

I think the problem today is that marriage doesn't mean anything to anyone. You get married and oh I just don't "feel" you anymore so lets just end it. People think that it is always going to be cloud 9 and that they are never going to fight or disagree or what have you.

I guess I wouldn't die if we didn't get married. But to me it is a very speical way to show your commitment to the other person. You make a vow that you will do what it takes to make your relationship work.

So yes, I would like to be married to one person so they can share the rest of my life with me.

[Greatday]

Originally Posted by KevK

Most people who marry don't stay marry so I question the value of it as a commitment. It is not about the paper but about the love! Don't need any paper for that. And don't need a big pricey wedding.

Yes, divorces happen. That is unfortunate. But, it is the intention of the parties when they enter into their marriage, that is of paramount importance. I know of no couple who goes into a marriage planning on getting a divorce.

And, many, many people get married without a "big pricey wedding" ceremony. So, that is nothing more than an excuse on your part.