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We've known each other for about 5 years and I think or I guess she feels close enough to tell me these things! Not really sure
I don't care how long I know anybody. Nobody's ever heard any comment about my partners' private parts and I'm pretty positive nobody's heard about mine from them, either.
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I don't care how long I know anybody. Nobody's ever heard any comment about my partners' private parts and I'm pretty positive nobody's heard about mine from them, either.
Oh and please understand I was not trying to justify this process whatsoever. I agree with you.
In my last career I worked around all men so I never got to enjoy idle gossip that people tell about themselves or others. Now I work around more women than guys and I get a kick out of hearing all the crazy goings-on. Some people just aren't embarrassed to tell others what is going on in their life. They like to be the center of attention for a few minutes I guess. I just lend an ear if they come to me then go on about my business.
What do you say to someone when they come to you with this type of problem is my question?
Did you read the entire post?
I think this one might be looking for a rescuer. Sometimes it's the invitation to get yourself involved, become her shoulder to cry on. Or for some people they love to entertain anyone who'll listen with their personal problems. It always surprises me how much some people love everyone to know everything that goes wrong in their lives.
Things grew silent for a minute and she looks at me and calls me by name and I say yes, she says you know what she said to me with this plain look on her face. Shaking my head in disbelief I replied no. She says that b_ _ ch said he has a small D_ _ k! I was floored. Quietly I just set there and shook my head.
What do you say to someone when they come to you with this type of problem is my question?
Sit there, listen, and throw out some "that's messed up", or "whuhhhhhhh, that's crazy"....
I will barely ever give advice in situations like these, UNLESS its someone close to me, because most of the time, the person is going to wind up BACK with the jerk that has cheated on them anyway.
Sit there, listen, and throw out some "that's messed up", or "whuhhhhhhh, that's crazy"....
I will barely ever give advice in situations like these, UNLESS its someone close to me, because most of the time, the person is going to wind up BACK with the jerk that has cheated on them anyway.
Totally agreed!!! I think sometimes people a) just want someone to listen to them vent and empathize without being judgmental, and b) they like drama and want to talk about themselves for attention and stay in unhealthy relationships because they get high off the drama. Either way best thing to do is stay as neutral as possible, an say stuff like the above and the aforementioned "Wow, I'm sorry that's happening to you."
Totally agreed!!! I think sometimes people a) just want someone to listen to them vent and empathize without being judgmental, and b) they like drama and want to talk about themselves for attention and stay in unhealthy relationships because they get high off the drama. Either way best thing to do is stay as neutral as possible, an say stuff like the above and the aforementioned "Wow, I'm sorry that's happening to you."
I totally agree with you ... you might want to add some "oh my" "wow I cant believe that" just to make it more believeable that you actually care...
Just curious does this women tell you all her problem or is this a first time for her... because if its a first time for her then maybe she really does need to talk to someone that is completely out of her normal circle of family and friends...
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I totally agree with you ... you might want to add some "oh my" "wow I cant believe that" just to make it more believeable that you actually care...
Just curious does this women tell you all her problem or is this a first time for her... because if its a first time for her then maybe she really does need to talk to someone that is completely out of her normal circle of family and friends...
Actually first time she has come to me with her personal issues. I still have vivid memories of that day in my mind..
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