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How come single mothers can bust their ass working 2 and 3 jobs while trying to raise a family alone, and not get praised, thanked, or any type of recognition for doing and trying their best, but when a single father does it, he gets all kinds of 'oooooooh's and ahhhhh's' from folks like he's doing something out of the extraordinary.........
well, because he is. as a woman myself- lets face it- we are the stronger sex. those things fall to us naturally, and men are more likely to run off. if a man doesn't run off, then that is pretty unusual, unfortunately.
Name some double standards that make you raise an eyebrow or two when it comes to male and female relationships..
For instance, these are two that make me raise an eyebrow:
Why is it when a man has multiple sex partners, he's considered 'the man', 'a big pimp', whereas he's put up on a pedestal and admired for his actions, however when a woman has multiple sex partners, she's considered a ho...a real life Jezebel?
Why is it during 3-somes with a man and 2 women, its called just that...'a 3-some'...but when its a woman and 2 men, its called a GANG BANG or stated how a 'train' was ran on the female?
It's the same for both IMO. You hang out with the wrong people apparently.
That women want to be treated like men, but want men to take care for them and buy them gifts and whatnot. Even on a sinking boat i'd bet you women would demand being rescued before men....
Yet they want to be treated just like men. IMO the biggest double standard of all.
Why is it when a man has multiple sex partners, he's considered 'the man', 'a big pimp', whereas he's put up on a pedestal and admired for his actions, however when a woman has multiple sex partners, she's considered a ho...a real life Jezebel?
It does go the other way, as well though. Meaning, if a woman declines to engage in intimate relations until marriage, for instance, she will tend to be widely admired and respected. Whereas, if a man elected to the same thing, he would tend to be looked down on, and/or considered "less manly".
I've had a lot of ppl in my life accuse me of being "gay" or "as*xual" (and I am neither), merely b/c I am a straight guy who has decided to be celibate and virginal, until after I am married.
Last edited by Phoenix2017; 06-23-2011 at 11:21 AM..
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Men are still expected to be providers and be employed. If a woman loses her job or doesn't work, most men will be okay with that. Frequently, if a man is unemployed or a stay-at-home-dad, say, he's looked down upon. If unemployed for long, far more women will divorce a man than vice versa.
If the woman doesn't want sex, the man should respect that and leave her alone until she feels like it. If the man doesn't want sex, something is wrong with that man, he's no good, might be gay, should be dumped.
Another one: Why is it, (referring to a small town setting) a man takes you to a couple of dances and you share a meal or two with him, does he think it gives him the right to start announcing to everyone you're "dating" when you made no such committment to him? Why is it, when a woman acts like this, she is called "needy, desperate and clingy"?
It does go the other way, as well though. Meaning, if a woman declines to engage in intimate relations until marriage, for instance, she will tend to be widely admired and respected. Whereas, if a man elected to the same thing, he would tend to be looked down on, and/or considered "less manly".
I've had a lot of ppl in my life accuse me of being "gay" or "as*xual" (and I am neither), merely b/c I am a straight guy who has decided to be celibate and virginal, until after I am married.
This right here and what onihC said.
I think women know a good way to change these double standards, but they'd have to change too much of their thinking, give up a bunch, and other things they will not want to do.
Double standards are always going to exist. If it isn't between genders, it will be between different races, religions, nationalities, etc. The point is to not let them get in the way of living your life in the best way you see fit. So you're a guy that doesn't want to pay for every date. Well - there are women out there that are going to be fine with that. As for the women that aren't fine with that - obviously - you two aren't meant to be together. So you are a girl who has slept with a lot of guys. There will be guys who judge you and think you are easy. So what? You aren't going to end up with one of those guys anyway. So you are a guy who stays home and takes care of the kids and people give you crap about it. Well - are you happy with your life? Does it work for your family? Who cares what anyone else thinks. People get so caught up in these things when they don't matter.
Another one: Why is it, (referring to a small town setting) a man takes you to a couple of dances and you share a meal or two with him, does he think it gives him the right to start announcing to everyone you're "dating" when you made no such committment to him? Why is it, when a woman acts like this, she is called "needy, desperate and clingy"?
2 or more dances and a couple dinners...
Say 4 or 4+ "Dates"....
It's because you ARE infact, "Dating"
I have observed, when women do it... it's not 'Yea, we are dating' the Casual way men view it as...
And that's where it goes sideways.
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those things fall to us naturally, and men are more likely to run off. if a man doesn't run off, then that is pretty unusual, unfortunately.
