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Seriously, I've heard about this junk all through college life, the gay life style and on the forum. How the heck do you have foreplay and sex with no emotions? How do you just turn off emotions? I feel like such an incompetent freak because I can't do that
Tell me your secrets. Do tell....do tell...
well, you've gotta be totally selfish & self-centered-- believing that you should be able to get & do whatever you want, with no consequences; and also have no problem in using someone else's body and someone else in general for your own gratification. it would help also if you have a low-class view of sex as nothing but a body-function.
sorry, but it doesn't seem you have what it takes for it
Just kidding...I love your post. Very uplifting and reassuring.
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Originally Posted by Tia 914
well, you've gotta be totally selfish & self-centered-- believing that you should be able to get & do whatever you want, with no consequences; and also have no problem in using someone else's body and someone else in general for your own gratification. it would help also if you have a low-class view of sex as nothing but a body-function.
sorry, but it doesn't seem you have what it takes for it
Sharing feelings about things in regards to what things? Is it ok to share opinions? I know you said that the goal is to not get to know each other.
What is the point of making it non-emotional?
Non-emotional is different, and very enjoyable in it's own right, it is a different experience & likewise pleasurable, in fact much more "hot" I would say, because it's based purely on physical and not emotional magnetism (obviously by definition). So even if it's not with a very physically attractive person, it is really "hot" because the entire experience is raw & based on physical only. Since you are having trouble getting there, then yes, it means you should refrain from sharing all opinions about yourself, from asking anything about the other person, from revealing anything about yourself, etc. Instead, talk about anything external, joke around (about other people if you want as long as it doesn't reveal something about yourself), etc. At that point the entire relationship from start to sex to finish is based only on physical. In order for it to be lusty, you'll have to fill in all the time that you would normally spend with sharing emotion (opinions, values, yourself), by being pure fun.
emotional = joy, connection, liking, bonding, pleasant feelings (before, during, and after), friendly feelings that last, you still perceive the person as worthwhile and good even after you have sex or foreplay, etc. That is emotional.
We are talking about the guys that are like cold fish right after the act is done and then they throw you away like yesterdays trash and ignore you.
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Why does it have to be emotional, isn't it enough to just like the person?
well, you've gotta be totally selfish & self-centered-- believing that you should be able to get & do whatever you want, with no consequences; and also have no problem in using someone else's body and someone else in general for your own gratification. it would help also if you have a low-class view of sex as nothing but a body-function.
sorry, but it doesn't seem you have what it takes for it
Yeah, it's totally selfish, self-centered and evil when two people have sex for physical pleasure.
So when one of the persons wants to stay connected why is that so terrible? Why does that cause problems? We don't understand that. If you just had intense expression of physically liking/shared bodily fluids/heavy petting but why is it that no personality liking can be involved?? We don't understand why it is so one sided. We don't understand the "hit it, and Quit it" thing. Sorry.
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Yeah, it's totally selfish, self-centered and evil when two people have sex for physical pleasure.
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