I used to think the old sayings that "Jerks get all the girls" and "Nice guys finish last," were just that; sayings; tired old cliches.
I'm now convinced otherwise. Infact, I believe them to be the number 1, absolute truth in dating.
Ladies! Why didn't you tell me this?!
I've been studying this thing called Mystery Method the past couple of days. It's a system of techniques used to meet and attract women.
I also met a guy online who was looking for a "Wing man;" someone to practice approaching random girls and conversing with them during the day in hopes of getting their numbers or a date.
So we were out today, just walking around and looking for groups of girls to talk to.
I saw group of 2 young, attractive girls sitting on a bench outside, so I walk past them, then turn around and say "Hey guys, quick question. I only got a minute; I gotta meet my friends down the road (by telling them "I only have a minute," it disarms them so they won't think you'll try to eat up all their time, and gets them to think "Okay! I can spare a minute or 2"
) but I need an opinion on something (girls LOVE giving their opinions
I tell the girls I'm in a band, and that I've been telling my band mates to play a guy's version of "Hollaback girl!" because it would be hilarious for a bunch of guys to not only sing a girl's song, but that song specifically, but they think it's stupid and won't do it. I want the girls to give their opinions on it.
The girls tell me they would love to see a bunch of guys play and sing "Hollaback girl." I go "Really? Well, my phone has a camera, and I want you to tell them on video that I was right and they were wrong."
So I take out my camera and record them telling my band mates that they think I have a good idea.
I get their names; Let's just call them E and M. M asks "So, you just go around trying to pickup random girls on benches or street corners? (Mystery Method calls this a "Player's test" to which you should ALWAYS reply jokingly and sarcastically
I reply. "No, usually I spend my days locked in my room, writing in my journal and crying."
M goes "haha, you loser!"
I go "EWW!" than turn to E and go "Do you actually enjoy hanging out with her or do you only keep her out of trouble all day?" E says "Yeah, she can be a handful sometimes."
I reply "tell me about it. So you guys know where there's a coffee shop around here?"
M starts to talk, but I cut her off by saying "I was asking your friend, not you, rude girl."
The girls start to crack up and E tells me there's a Starbucks around the corner. I simply respond by saying "Okay. Care to lead me?"
The girls get up and start walking me to the Starbucks. I ask E, "Oh, she's (M) coming too? Whatever."
So we get to Starbucks, and my Wing Man is just "randomly" sitting there. I introduce them, we get our coffees, sit down and just chat.
And for about a good 30 minutes, we were just teasing them. One girl said she was an artist, and I said "What, like, stick-figures and stuff?"
One girl said how she gave up on the piano when she couldn't learn Chopsticks on the piano, and my friend replied "haha, you loser."
E started talking to M really quietly and I immitated her by making murmering sounds and then said "Speak up! You talk like a mouse!"
When E was talking and M started to turn her head and look down the street, my friend tells her "What's up, you checking those dudes down the street? Yeah, they're cute. You should ask them out. Here let me help you. HEY GUYS! THIS GIRL WAS CHECKING YOU OUT!" And M lept on him and put her hands on his mouth saying "SSHHH!"
It was a pretty wild day. We got both their numbers and are seeing them again Wednessday night.
I'm surpirsed how easy it is with the techniques I'm learning, and sure, having another guy is a lot of help.
But I'm disappointed that the women here weren't more open and honest about what attracts them to a guy.