Cougars..... (guy, young, children, sex)

[Tia 914]

Originally Posted by Kele

A MILF is not a Cougar.

A MILF is a "mother I'd love to f**k."

A Cougar is a woman who actively seeks out and dates younger men.

so how does one differentiate between someone who does that and someone who just happens to meet a person she's actually interested in as a person?

[ChessieMom]

I too am over this silly term. If a cougar is a woman who is a lot older than her guy, how the hell can you say there are a lot of "cougars" out in the bars? Are you checking out each and every one's eyes to see who they are checking out???

There have always been older women out in certain bars, just like you see older men (and what's their name, huh?) out in those same bars. I don't get it.

[Kele]

Originally Posted by Tia 914

so how does one differentiate between someone who does that and someone who just happens to meet a person she's actually interested in as a person?

According to my daughter's friends, I am a MILF. I am not however, a Cougar. I may be dating someone younger, but I would be just as happy to date someone my age or older as well. I don't actively seek out and date only men who are younger than I am.

Therein lies the difference.

[Tia 914]

Originally Posted by Kele

According to my daughter's friends, I am a MILF. I am not however, a Cougar. I may be dating someone younger, but I would be just as happy to date someone my age or older as well. I don't actively seek out and date only men who are younger than I am.

Therein lies the difference.

that makes sense. thanks for clarifying. this forum is the first I'd ever heard the term

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by Kele

According to my daughter's friends, I am a MILF. I am not however, a Cougar. I may be dating someone younger, but I would be just as happy to date someone my age or older as well. I don't actively seek out and date only men who are younger than I am.

Therein lies the difference.

Apparently I'm one too. Where do kids get this stuff?

[nebulous1]

Originally Posted by stepka

Thank you. I just turned 50 and am on okcupid, and the majority of the messages I get are from men under 30. The ones who are over 30 live 1000 miles away and want to get married tomorrow. This doesn't leave me a lot of options for dating. I did give in to the pleadings of an extremely handsome 29yo but got burned (emotionally), so probably won't be pursuing the cougar lifestyle, but I had to try it I guess. The problem is that I'm looking for a real relationship, and while that my be possible with a man 20 yrs younger, it's not likely.

There is also the myth going around that older women are horney and the younger guys want to see if they can just land some. They think the older single woman will be easy, because she can't get any from a guy her own age. Buyer beware.

[John McClane]

Also to add to that, a Cougar is OVER age 40.

So you would not consider a 39 year old woman who is dating a 21 year old man for example to be a cougar ?

[Seacrets]

Originally Posted by dave nz

But my question is "Why the huge increase recently?" what has caused and is causing there to be so many now on the prowl

Women raise their children and then want to return to going out, having fun and having sex.
About that same time, their husbands are settling into a sedentary life style and aren't interested (or interesting) anymore.
So, the women are forced to look elsewhere, and luckily there are plenty of young guys looking to have fun.

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by Tia 914

so how does one differentiate between someone who does that and someone who just happens to meet a person she's actually interested in as a person?

You can't. That's why the term is truly useless.

[miu]

Originally Posted by ChessieMom

Apparently I'm one too. Where do kids get this stuff?

I *think* the MILF concept went crazy after the first American Pie movie in 1999. In the film, Stifler's sexy mom was a MILF that all the high school boys liked to fantasize about.