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Old 06-19-2009, 12:40 PM
 
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I've always heard the rule about 3 days. You get a person's phone number and you're supposed to wait to call. You're supposed to do this in a certain time frame. Apparently science along the way has determined that 2 days or less make you seem desperate and 4 days or more make you seem uninterested.

So, is there any legitimite fact to this? Or do you follow a beat to your own drum?
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Old 06-19-2009, 12:45 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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I once waited two months to call a guy who walked up to me and handed me his business card. I wasn't disinterested, I had just started college and was very engrossed in what I was doing. When I needed to unwind, I finally called him. I was pleasantly surprised. I couldn't believe he actually still wanted to see me. LOL
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Old 06-19-2009, 12:55 PM
 
Location: Delaware...Oi
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I've always heard the rule about 3 days. You get a person's phone number and you're supposed to wait to call. You're supposed to do this in a certain time frame. Apparently science along the way has determined that 2 days or less make you seem desperate and 4 days or more make you seem uninterested.

So, is there any legitimite fact to this? Or do you follow a beat to your own drum?
If you're 18-22 perhaps. Other than that to me it's just a lame-ass game, you're interested or you're not. I call the next day usually. Just comes across as being a man-**** in that case if you wait the "required" amount, or some married dude trying to pull a fast in and outtie.

People are such pusses anymore. Interested? Act like it for god's sake, in any case if I gave mine and didn't hear squat for a week unless there's a message she was in some horrific car-accident or the like, then I wouldn't bother to answer or reply after, as that's insanely disrespectful. Fairly obvious in my view that's not someone I wish to waste my time with, as she wasn't even a smattering of what I'd hoped, regardless.
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Old 06-19-2009, 12:56 PM
 
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I once waited two months to call a guy who walked up to me and handed me his business card. I wasn't disinterested, I had just started college and was very engrossed in what I was doing. When I needed to unwind, I finally called him. I was pleasantly surprised. I couldn't believe he actually still wanted to see me. LOL

How did things turn out?
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Old 06-19-2009, 12:59 PM
 
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If you're 18-22 perhaps. Other than that to me it's just a lame-ass game, you're interested or you're not. I call the next day usually. Just comes across as being a man-**** in that case, or some married dude trying to pull a fast in and outtie.

People are such pusses anymore. Like or don't like, in either case if I gave mine and didn't hear squat for a week unless there's a message she was in some horrific car-accident or the like, then I wouldn't bother to answer or reply after, as that's insanely disrespectful.


Like you I tend to call the next day. If i'm interested I'm interested. Now I don't sound all giddy and excited like a little school girl. Just calling to say it was nice meeting you and if they want to hang out.
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Old 06-19-2009, 01:01 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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How did things turn out?
Oh, we dated for a couple months and that was it. We weren't each other's type. He later said, 'The way you carry yourself, your confidence caught my attention'. Good line. LOL Actually, I was glad I dated him b'c hearing that gave me confidence. I don't know what he was seeing before that.
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Old 06-19-2009, 01:12 PM
 
Location: Pittsburgh's 'EAST SIDE'
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The next day, at a reasonable time of day, is fine.

I've exchanged phone numbers with guys before. who called me as soon as they got in the car. We'd be in the same spot, exchange numbers, he'll say he's leaving, and I'll be like 'okay, call me'...next thing you know, my phone is going off and its him calling me from his car on his way to his next stop while I'm still in the same spot we met in..........I can't stand thirsty acting guys like that. Its a turn off, and it can cause you to never hear from me again.
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Old 06-19-2009, 01:33 PM
 
Location: B'ham
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When I have received a number, I normally call within two days and expect the same. If a guy thinks that makes me appear desperate, then perhaps he's not what I'm looking for. I'm just trying to find out if he's worth my time and vice versa as soon as I can.
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Old 06-19-2009, 01:47 PM
 
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Well, if he has money or is drop dead handsome, call his cell phone before he gets more than 10 feet away from you.

Otherwise, let your conscious be your guide (but when it comes to money or eye candy, scre& your conscious).
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Old 06-19-2009, 01:56 PM
 
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Some people act like waiting implies you're "cool" or "too busy", and that this is a good thing -

In my view, you have momentum early on, you're fresh in each others' minds, so the next day (or day after that) is fine. A week is too long.
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