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So I'm the girlfriend of this middle-aged man and he asks my opinion on a shirt he has tried on. The model was nice, but the fabric too thin and his nipples were showing through, so I say 'it looks good on you, it is a nice model, I find it a lil bit too transparent though'.
But the shopkeeper, a very transparent gay person starts complimenting him on how he looks in the shirt, and I see the man's self-esteem rising through the roof. *but was it just self-esteem?) The gay shopkeeper also thinks the shirt would go well with a certain pair of jeans and he sizes up my boyfriend in sleazy looks in order to determine the right jeans size to bring for him. All of this time I can see how this particular type of attention is flattering my boyfriend. He doesn't buy anything in the end and after we walk out I'm left with the impression that he feels the shopkeeper was able to treat and understand him in a way I could not, and the rest of the walk is pretty silent and unnatural after a plain visit in a shop!!
This is something that happened some time ago but left me with an odd feeling I would like to find some clues to. Always, note that I used to compliment him a lot and spoil him so it's not that he wasn't admired by his girlfriend.
Sounds like you have issues. I don't think your boyfriend's gay at all. He got the male perspective on an outfit and he obviously valued the guy's opinion. Haven't you ever seen "Q ueer Eye For The Straight Guy"?
My fiance is always being hit on by gay guys. It seems like everywhere we go, he sets off gay men. I find it flattering, but honestly I'm relieved that he grabs me and pulls me close in those moments rather than enjoying his self-display. He sends me these slightly terrified looks and shakes his head. It really happens all the time. Anywhere. Especially on vacation. LOL But yea - I'm glad he doesn't come out of those situations in a way that would make me wonder if he's gay. I'd feel very lonely if I thought a guy was gay and only with me to try to please society, his parents, whoever. I can see why you were hurt, but was it that he cared more about someone else's opinion than yours (and did he really if he didn't buy anything) or is it that you thought he was gay?
That is absolutely not a sign that the guy is gay. I do however find it a bit weird that you say "The man's self esteem ......" instead of "My boyfriends self esteem.........". You say this happened a "long time ago" and that its still bothering you? Sounds like someone definitely has some issues.
Come clean with us, there MUST be something else that makes you question if he may be gay or not because the scenario you post doesnt give one teeny tiny itsy bitsy bit of info to even for a second make me question if he's gay.
So I'm the girlfriend of this middle-aged man and he asks my opinion on a shirt he has tried on. The model was nice, but the fabric too thin and his nipples were showing through, so I say 'it looks good on you, it is a nice model, I find it a lil bit too transparent though'.
But the shopkeeper, a very transparent gay person starts complimenting him on how he looks in the shirt, and I see the man's self-esteem rising through the roof. *but was it just self-esteem?) The gay shopkeeper also thinks the shirt would go well with a certain pair of jeans and he sizes up my boyfriend in sleazy looks in order to determine the right jeans size to bring for him. All of this time I can see how this particular type of attention is flattering my boyfriend. He doesn't buy anything in the end and after we walk out I'm left with the impression that he feels the shopkeeper was able to treat and understand him in a way I could not, and the rest of the walk is pretty silent and unnatural after a plain visit in a shop!!
This is something that happened some time ago but left me with an odd feeling I would like to find some clues to. Always, note that I used to compliment him a lot and spoil him so it's not that he wasn't admired by his girlfriend.
I wear red/green/turquoise socks and the like for my dress shoes.
Compliments shower in from the ladies. But the other guys warn me I'll be considered gay.
bottom line--if someone else's opinions be it male or female are more important to him or impact him more---then it's a sign to move on
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gay person starts complimenting him on how he looks in the shirt, and I see the man's self-esteem rising through the roof. *but was it just self-esteem?) The gay shopkeeper also thinks the shirt would go well with a certain pair of jeans and he sizes up my boyfriend in sleazy looks in order to determine the right jeans size to bring for him. All of this time I can see how this particular type of attention is flattering my boyfriend. He doesn't buy anything in the end and after we walk out I'm left with the impression that he feels the shopkeeper was able to treat and understand him in a way I could not, and the rest of the walk is pretty silent and unnatural after a plain visit in a shop!! 
And I am a terrorist hetero 
