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06-20-2009, 01:41 PM
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"Mama, Wife, Chemist, Crafter...that's ME"
(set 19 days ago)
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Location: Minneapolis 'burbs
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Is my dad just being "a dad"?
I'm not a kid...I'm a 30 year old (in 2 weeks - Yeah!!) single mom of 2. My last relationship lasted almost 5 years & ended 2 years ago. I took a good year to sort things out...mainly why I stayed in a dead end relationship for so long. Late last summer I reentered the dating scene. I remained a good sport & didn't get too frustrated. I met a new man about 2 months ago & things are GREAT!! I have never felt so connected to anyone. I'm so excited about our progress that I've bragged about him to everyone. My family has met 2 of my previous BF's. My most recent ex & my kids' father. That's it. But I want them to meet my new bf. I think he has serious staying power. My mom introduced herself to him via facebook and they've exchanged a couple messages  that's my mom...he's excited about meeting them & everyone but my dad is excited about meeting him.
My dad claims to have an issue with him being divorced. But is just being difficult in general. I'm only bothered because I am SO close to my family but I REALLY care about this man.
Should I not worry about it until they actually meet? Should I talk to my dad first? I know I'm acting like a 20 year old...but I am very, very selective about who makes it into my family circle.
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06-20-2009, 01:48 PM
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Location: Tucson
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Quote:
Originally Posted by 2blessed2stress
My dad claims to have an issue with him being divorced. But is just being difficult in general. I'm only bothered because I am SO close to my family but I REALLY care about this man.
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I fail to understand your father's "issue" since you're either a divorcee or a never-married mother. What makes the guy unsuitable for you? |
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06-20-2009, 01:59 PM
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Status:
"Mama, Wife, Chemist, Crafter...that's ME"
(set 19 days ago)
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Location: Minneapolis 'burbs
157 posts, read 316,290 times
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EXACTLY!! I'm a never married single mother of 2. He said "if he has children he should be with his family". I'm like...huh? I mean, in an ideal world, people would marry, have children, and the marriages would last forever. But it doesn't always happen like that.
Which makes me think he's just being difficult. But it still matters to me that my family accepts my guy.
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06-20-2009, 02:12 PM
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Location: Tennessee
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I say let your Dad meet him.  |
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06-20-2009, 02:13 PM
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Location: Wherever women are
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Dads are always a piece of work  |
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06-20-2009, 02:15 PM
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Location: So Cal
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Originally Posted by sierraAZ
I fail to understand your father's "issue" since you're either a divorcee or a never-married mother. What makes the guy unsuitable for you?
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That was kind of my first impression as well |
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06-20-2009, 02:21 PM
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Location: Coachella Valley, California
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I don't get it either. Maybe your dad is just really stubborn like my new dance partner. I'm sure your dad wants the very best for you, but in his stubbornness, he can't see that he's vilifying this guy for essentially the same things you did. Let your dad meet him.
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06-20-2009, 02:24 PM
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Location: London, UK
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If i was in that situation my dad would be the same - He didnt like one of my ex's because he had a kid! Yet gets on with one of my male friends who has 4 kids and isnt married or still with the mother!
Thats dads for you, I say talk to him a bit before hand - tell him not to judge a book by its cover and arrange a family meet! (: Good Luck and hope it goes well!
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06-20-2009, 02:27 PM
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Location: So Cal
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I wonder if there is some passive aggressive hostility about the OP's not being married and going the conventional route. Possibly putting it on the new guy. 
After all, its always easier to blame someone else. |
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06-20-2009, 03:02 PM
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Location: Back in the gym...Yo Adrian!
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Just let your dad meet him. If they hit it off all the better for you. If not, perhaps he'll warm up to him if he see's the two of you are really starting to gel as a couple. Take it one day at a time.
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