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To some people life is too short to hold a grudge. Her being hurt and angry would not have stopped them from having an affair or getting married. If that was the case, the relationship never would have happened in the first place.
That said, I'm eternally grateful that my sister and have never been attracted to the same type of man. And I'm even more grateful that she loves me so much that it would never occur to her to go after my guy.
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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I'll say this, it's a very self-empowering and liberating feeling to forgive--even if the one you've forgiven doesn't know about it. You know in your heart. It does you good.
I'll say this, it's a very self-empowering and liberating feeling to forgive--even if the one you've forgiven doesn't know about it. You know in your heart. It does you good.
I must admit I'm starting to get of bit of THAT after a lot of thinking - even though my gut and my nature says, "cease to exist".
It's not about holding a grudge. To me just both would seize to exist.
Me too. Just have no desire to associate myself with anyone who would even dream of doing that...family or not, these people would just not be my cup of tea. I wouldn't even do that to a friend, let alone a sister, although I know it's been done.
One more tidbit - my friend is sick, got sick from all that stress. Her current partner keeps his finances separate. She has to work, and when she was looking for a job (after so many years staying home with the kids, her ex had a good business and was a good provider), she could find what she could find without a college degree. A lot of times she feels like she needs to stay home because of pain. But, she needs to make a living. She says she knows that her ex would do everything to help her - she would stay at home until she got better. She can't now. Her partner just retired and has a nice pension, but their expenses are agreed on and she has to carry here share of the load.
She says, often she looks at her sister living what was supposed to be HER life.
Either she is a saint, or some people (like Whyte Byrd) have seen something that I have not reached yet.
One more tidbit - my friend is sick, got sick from all that stress. Her current partner keeps his finances separate. She has to work, and when she was looking for a job (after so many years staying home with the kids, her ex had a good business and was a good provider), she could find what she could find without a college degree. A lot of times she feels like she needs to stay home because of pain. But, she needs to make a living. She says she knows that her ex would do everything to help her - she would stay at home until she got better. She can't now. Her partner just retired and has a nice pension, but their expenses are agreed on and she has to carry here share of the load.
She says, often she looks at her sister living what was supposed to be HER life.
Either she is a saint, or some people (like Whyte Byrd) have seen something that I have not reached yet.
You know, she could've ended up in the same situation under any number of other circumstances, but your own sister going after your husband is something beyond me! For the record, I don't have any siblings.
I just made a friend of a nice lady. I just can't get my head around the fact that her ex-husband married her sister (had an affair with her first, while still married) and she was able to forgive, both.
I'd forgive them with time...would I want them hanging around my house every other weekend watching movies? Probably not.
I'm a pretty forgiving sort, but that would be really tough for me to let slide.
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