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Old 06-23-2009, 05:03 PM
 
Location: In the sticks, SC
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FYI, I was one of those guys who recommended he seek out the PUA sites but I honestly regret doing it because he seems to be more interested in arguing with people than actually meeting women.
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Old 06-23-2009, 07:05 PM
 
Location: here.
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Bars are what they are...its like a baseball field or a football field..its only to be used to play games and nothing serious...with that being said..i love the bars, if you know that at end of the night you wont find anything serious or in my case i am not looking for anything serious (im 23), the bars are great place to met chicks and have a good time...
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Old 06-23-2009, 07:32 PM
 
Location: outer boroughs, NYC
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Does anyone get this feeling?

That whenever someone complains about hating the bar scene because all the girls are "floozies" and "phonies" and "bimboes" and "bar-skanks," that they're really just too ashamed to admit they don't know how to meet new people at bars?

I've met guys like this before, and I get the feeling that if they COULD meet a new woman every time they went out to the bar, they wouldn't hate it so much.
To a certain extent (full disclosure: I've said that before. I'm terrible at meeting people in bars...well, I really don't try much).

I think the real reason the bar scene doesn't work for most people - or at least most people who are looking for a relationship - is not that most girls in bars are floozies, or bimbos, or phonies, or skanks. That's just not true. It's more the random nature of bars. Bars are a sort-of forced interaction. There's really nothing - not a common interest, not a friend, nothing - that brings people in bars together aside from the fact that they drink. Seeing as most people drink, this is not much of a sorting mechanism, really.

People are more likely to get on well with people they meet in activity clubs, or at work, or in school, or through friends, because those groups are more self-selected according to values. Two people who share a common interest, or do the same job, or have the same friends, are far more likely to be similar than two people who just happen to be in a given bar on a Saturday night. That's why the bar scene rarely works.
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Old 07-02-2009, 03:57 PM
 
Location: Centro Tejas
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doesn't people realize that bars aren't meant for creating relationships?!

They're for flings and hook ups. Nothing else.
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Old 07-02-2009, 05:03 PM
 
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Nightclubs also are for dancing and making new buddies.

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doesn't people realize that bars aren't meant for creating relationships?!

They're for flings and hook ups. Nothing else.
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Old 07-02-2009, 07:58 PM
 
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I was gonna say something too, but then I saw the number of controversial posts in here and decided that nobody would read mine anyway. Ha! But here I go again, anyway.

Cy, you will probably find low quality people no matter where you go.
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Old 09-05-2009, 08:06 PM
 
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to be real, most women in the club scene are only concerned with social status. your degree of wealth, fame and power, realistically that's all it boils down too.

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F*ck the Club Dawg, I'd rather make a million bucks
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You hustlin backwards if you chasin a b*tch
chase the paper, they come with the sh*t
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Old 09-05-2009, 08:19 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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Does anyone get this feeling?

That whenever someone complains about hating the bar scene because all the girls are "floozies" and "phonies" and "bimboes" and "bar-skanks," that they're really just too ashamed to admit they don't know how to meet new people at bars?

I've met guys like this before, and I get the feeling that if they COULD meet a new woman every time they went out to the bar, they wouldn't hate it so much.
I don't know that I would ever aspire to be an expert on how to find love or meet people in a bar.
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Old 09-06-2009, 12:36 AM
 
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Default The first girl is the hardest

You just need to get that first girl and make sure she has lots of older brothers. When you want to move on, go to the family picnic and tell them the bad news and let them know you were only using her for sex. Count the days you are in the hospital. That is around the number of times you need to be asking girls out to find the next one. This is your guide.

OK I was a little unusual because I did go celibate in my 20s but I did still go to dance clubs for awhile. There were some nights not one girl would dance with me. I counted 10 once. It was a good way to work the fear out of your system and just start meeting people. That's all they ever did for me. There were some confused girls though who sometime thought me wanting to dance with them meant I wanted to have sex. I certainly did in some ways but I had my reasons of faith.
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Old 02-19-2010, 12:04 AM
 
Location: Somewhere in Cass County MI
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When I did drink & do the bar scene...some nights were to get drunk, some to get drunk & pick me up someone to fulfill my loneliness....Then I sobered up & realized how much I can't stand bars.
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