Online dating (woman, love, single, family)

[shygirl39]

Have anyone up here been online dating sites? I am on at least 2 and I am about to give up. Just everybody had said just go about your daily life and focus on self and your family then next thing you know you end up meeting someone. To me I just think it is best to meet someone off the online dating site. Just like some people said if you dress half nake and talking dirty you get all kinds of message. If you go up there with something on your mine then you are not going to get that many message. Have anyone been on these sites and have good experience? I would love to know. Thank You.

[Antlered Chamataka]

Originally Posted by shygirl39

Have anyone up here been online dating sites? I am on at least 2 and I am about to give up. Just everybody had said just go about your daily life and focus on self and your family then next thing you know you end up meeting someone. To me I just think it is best to meet someone off the online dating site. Just like some people said if you dress half nake and talking dirty you get all kinds of message. If you go up there with something on your mine then you are not going to get that many message. Have anyone been on these sites and have good experience? I would love to know. Thank You.

Some folks claim to get sweet deals and a lot others complain.

It's all luck, lady.

Personally, I've always found those sites shallow.

Everyone's a down to earth, fun loving, caring, loving ............ individual

[DennyCrane]

Originally Posted by shygirl39

Have anyone up here been online dating sites? I am on at least 2 and I am about to give up. Just everybody had said just go about your daily life and focus on self and your family then next thing you know you end up meeting someone. To me I just think it is best to meet someone off the online dating site. Just like some people said if you dress half nake and talking dirty you get all kinds of message. If you go up there with something on your mine then you are not going to get that many message. Have anyone been on these sites and have good experience? I would love to know. Thank You.

I don't understand why you can't do both. All these threads about online dating make it sound like you have to pick one method or the other. You can post a profile online and search there, but you can also continue going about your daily routine. Just like a job search, you shouldn't employ only one method. Whether you search online or offline, no method comes with any guarantee. Frankly, I think people have unrealistic expectations about online dating. If they don't meet someone after a certain amount of time, they give up. Would you do that in the offline world too? Of course not. You'd continue using that option and look for additional options to add.

[bbrian12]

I got nothing

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by DennyCrane

I don't understand why you can't do both. All these threads about online dating make it sound like you have to pick one method or the other. You can post a profile online and search there, but you can also continue going about your daily routine. Just like a job search, you shouldn't employ only one method. Whether you search online or offline, no method comes with any guarantee. Frankly, I think people have unrealistic expectations about online dating. If they don't meet someone after a certain amount of time, they give up. Would you do that in the offline world too? Of course not. You'd continue using that option and look for additional options to add.

What he said. ^^

[njmike]

Originally Posted by ChessieMom

What he said. ^^

The same here.

[Waynec613]

Originally Posted by ChessieMom

What he said. ^^

I'd have to differ a bit. Serves as a good pep talk, but people do give up on the "offline" world all the time for dating.

For most I think it's just kinda "meh" either way after a bit of it, and taking a time-out of pushing yourself to do different venues is healthy in many instances as it becomes more like second job then fun sometimes.

[whitem3]

I've used a couple dating sites. Went on a bunch of first dates but was disappointed and didn't seek a second date. I did however meet a great woman and we saw each other for about 6 months but, to put it bluntly, the sex wasn't great so I ended that. I find it easier to meet online and shoot a few emails back and forth and get to know someone a little before meeting. I'm very shy so the thought of seeing someone in the super market and saying something to her is out of the question. I just couldn't do that. I don't know if I can use web site names here but I'd avoid the site that's called what you'd light a cigarette with. As a paying member I could write anyone but unless she was a paying member she couldn't respond. I argued with them saying I paid to meet people and if I write someone I expect that they can respond regardless of their membership. You can also look in the free personals of the list that Craig made. Good luck and BTW, I'm still single and unattached if you're interested

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by Waynec613

I'd have to differ a bit. Serves as a good pep talk, but people do give up on the "offline" world all the time for dating.

For most I think it's just kinda "meh" either way after a bit of it, and taking a time-out of pushing yourself to do different venues is healthy in many instances as it becomes more like second job then fun sometimes.

Sure they do. In fact, I think those that are most often disappointed so quickly online, have already given up the "offline" arena. They are already annoyed with the whole dating scene, so it's easy to fall into the same old "this sucks" attitude.

[Waynec613]

Originally Posted by ChessieMom

Sure they do. And I think generally, those that "give up" so quickly online, also give up quickly in the "offline" arena as well.

Yep. And it is more of a bad choice of wording to me. Giving up implies that just that, giving up, ready for the monastery/nunnery.

My usual understanding of what's usually implied is them simply taking a breather, as you said, usually both at the same time.

They are already annoyed with the whole dating scene, so it's easy to fall into the same old "this sucks" attitude

True enough.