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I would like to befriend my female colleagues…something which I am somehow unable to do. There are some women in my office I find attractive and would like to date them. But I have to get familiar before I do that. How do I approach them? Any help?
Do not. I repeat DO NOT "befriend" women with the intention of something more. That's like sneaking in the back door because you're too ashamed to be seen out front.
Do friendships ever develop into relationships? Yes, of course they do, all the time. But they didn't start out with one side or the other 'plotting' to have things turn out that way. If you do you will forever be chasing women away because they can smell the desperation a mile away.
If you're already really interested in someone then just be upfront with her. If you're not sure but you would like to get to know her better to find out, say so. No matter who you are or what you look like not every woman will say yes, but nearly every woman will respect you for being confident and honest about your intentions.
Do not. I repeat DO NOT "befriend" women with the intention of something more. That's like sneaking in the back door because you're too ashamed to be seen out front.
Do friendships ever develop into relationships? Yes, of course they do, all the time. But they didn't start out with one side or the other 'plotting' to have things turn out that way. If you do you will forever be chasing women away because they can smell the desperation a mile away.
If you're already really interested in someone then just be upfront with her. If you're not sure but you would like to get to know her better to find out, say so. No matter who you are or what you look like not every woman will say yes, but nearly every woman will respect you for being confident and honest about your intentions.
I'd still try to temper myself a bit. Without finding out about her how can you truly know your interested?
THAT would be a scenario that could play out extremely wrong in a workplace in terms of setting the stage for awkwardness at the least. As I doubt someone with confidence would be asking in any serious manner how to be friends with coworkers because they are the owners of the coveted boobage instead of snausages.
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Heres a story,I was working at one of the biggest communication companies in the world. There was nothing but fine girls working there. The man/women ratio was probably 80/20 women. The men were like animals chasing these girls. I was the cocky yet naturally shy guy that just stayed to himself and guess what I was approached by several female co-workers.....True story!
Do not. I repeat DO NOT "befriend" women with the intention of something more. That's like sneaking in the back door because you're too ashamed to be seen out front.
I agree with you in principle, but you need to know what you're getting into. Sometimes you need to hang around, get a feel for the person, motives mysterious and unknown.
I've dodged some bullets this way.
I suppose you could shoot first and ask questions later, though..
I would like to befriend my female colleagues…something which I am somehow unable to do. There are some women in my office I find attractive and would like to date them. But I have to get familiar before I do that. How do I approach them? Any help?
You shouldn't date co-workers. Very, very bad idea. Try elsewhere.
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I would like to befriend my female colleagues…something which I am somehow unable to do. There are some women in my office I find attractive and would like to date them. But I have to get familiar before I do that. How do I approach them? Any help?
