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Yes, me too. But there are other things going on, as well. Like a man or a woman who will accept the advances of another man or woman without actively seeking it, thus, in their minds, they are still heterosexual.
To my mind, they are gay, in the sense that they have sex with their own gender. I am not saying there is anything bad about that. Just that if you are gay, be who you are and don't run from it.
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I'm just saying, it can get very blurry when it comes to labels. Sexuality isn't really about who you have sex with, it's about who you're oriented and attracted to. At least, that's how I've always conceived of it.
My real question is why this is occurring.
Sexuality is about who you want to have sex with, or who you will accept having sex with if you had the game and if there were no other barriers. I guess some closeted gays (or bis) don't want to act on their impulses because of what society would say or think. This is occurring because they are not honest with themselves about who they really are.
I'll say another thing though...I do think, in terms of the whole "denial" thing, that a lot of people who do this sort of cheating probably think that it's "less bad" or "different" than cheating with the opposite sex. It's "different", you know? It's not *really* the way they are. *Add all other excuses here*
*shrug* When you feed into labels, you have to fit a mold. When you do something that doesn't fit that mold, it usually ends up with deep denial.
That better?
I guess.
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