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Originally Posted by musiclover47382
Whenever I tell potential dates about my future goals they give me negative feedback. For example, “who would ever go out with a nerdy neurologist” or “I don’t want to date someone who is going to be out at 3:00 AM to go do surgery”.
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Who are you talking to that says things like that, teen-agers?
Personally, I wouldn't marry a doctor but only b'c I've worked closely with them for years and I always wondered, if they're like this at work all day, how are they at home--never mind, I don't want to know that bad. They start out wanting to save the world and thinking they can to becoming calloused to the suffering they see day in and day out. I admire and dread them at the same time.
Why do you think doctors like dating other doctors, it's because of that reason. Trust me, I'm a dentist and my social life was pretty much non-existent while in school. To people who weren't in the program they didn't understand, but other classmates were in the same position. I would never sacrifice dating over graduate school, not in a million years. I'm so glad I stuck with school and didn't have a life, trust me I'm living a better life now because of it.
You've heard the old sayings about docs, right? They marry the first gal to help support them through the rigors of med. school/early practice and then trade that one in for a new wife befitting his station as a doctor. Obviously, it's not true in all cases but there is some validity in it. Docs have high divorce rates.
If that's the profession you want, then you need to give it your all. Skip the dependency on the first woman and stay single until your education and residencies are done. THEN, look for a mate. You will have no shortage of interested women, I'd think.
Med school (for MD and DO) is 4 years with the last year shared in the residency program. The residency lasts between 1-3years (or is it 4?) and a fellowship is anywhere from 1-5 years.
You have plenty of time to worry about someone to have a relationship with.
DrSmiley was right. Most people will not understand the 36 hour shifts, studying, studying groups, or the expectations placed on you by your professors, peers and yourself.
Being single during med school may be the biggest gift you can ever give yourself.
I honestly love treating patients(kids especially) and watching them improve, though. It looks like I am a lost medical student on the dating scene. Maybe you can help me out? Which medical specialty out of the four(child neurology, laparoscopic surgery, pediatric surgery, oncology) would you be willing to date, possibly get into a serious relationship with? Any words of advice you have would be appreciated.
I'd date them all! Can we say 'CHING CHING'.....JACKPOT!
Hmmm… It looks like 50% of men/women think long hours, 10+ years of schooling, massive debt from student loans, measly residency pay is a huge turn-off. The other 50% is like “yea, I would totally date a doctor”, and but seem like they are most attracted to the money/status. Looks like a loss/loss situation to me. Any more words of advice or comments?
If you consider having a rewarding career that you enjoy a "loss/loss" situation, you need to rethink your career goals. Looking at your posts I don't know why you even want to be a doctor if all you're worried about is how many dates you're going to have. You would actually change your major because your friends have better social lives than you? Maybe your friends are just more attractive. My advice would be to find another field to go into.
You take out a quarter-million to pay for your bachelor's degree and medical school.
Then you work the next 6 or 7 years as a resident, 100 hour weeks for $50,000/year.
Once you finally are able to make real money, you're about 35 years old, and malpractice insurance premiums eat up any profit you might make in a private practice, while you pay off that debt. This doesn't even factor in what could happen to doctors' pay if the federal government nationalized the whole system.
This is why everybody says, don't be a doctor for the money; do it because you love it.
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Maybe your friends are just more attractive. My advice would be to find another field to go into.
