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Another thing.... Is there anything I could do to ********** up? What should I be aware of? I really like this girl and just want to make sure I don't make any obvious mistakes. I'm sure trying to date a single mother can be a lot more difficult in this sense
Whatever you do, respect the mother-son relationship and be good to that boy. It is not good for the boy to see different men coming in and out of his mom's life. So, if you can't handle being in it for the long haul, you should bow-out now.
I mean that's not why I am getting with her. But.... I am a Hispanic Laser Engineer. She is from El Salvador (10 years in the US and yes legal). She works as a waitress. I am always willing to mentor and help people when I see potential for me to make a difference. She is a damned good mother though and he wouldn't need much help. And from what it sounds like, his father isn't that bad of a dad.
Why would you say that? Are you able to look into this woman's heart and know what she is all about?
It's not about the woman though it's about the kid. It is never about the woman when she has a kid. The main focus is the kid. A 24 year old should not have to deal with that there are plenty of childless women his age where there relationship will be focused around the two of them instead of raising and caring for a kid.
Whatever you do, respect the mother-son relationship and be good to that boy. It is not good for the boy to see different men coming in and out of his mom's life. So, if you can't handle being in it for the long haul, you should bow-out now.
Like I said... not looking for some one nighter or a few months. The next person I want to be with better be someone that I can at least say I can possibly be with forever. Do I want to marry her now? No. But I am not approaching this as something short term at all.
Whatever you do, respect the mother-son relationship and be good to that boy. It is not good for the boy to see different men coming in and out of his mom's life. So, if you can't handle being in it for the long haul, you should bow-out now.
That's a great post Mike - if i could rep you I would.
It's not about the woman though it's about the kid. It is never about the woman when she has a kid. The main focus is the kid. A 24 year old should not have to deal with that there are plenty of childless women his age where there relationship will be focused around the two of them instead of raising and caring for a kid.
I feel like a lot of 24 year olds out here are full of themselves and have no idea about the real world. I have dated a lot of 24 year olds out here. It always feels like it's not worth my time because of this. With her, my heart pounds like crazy just thinking about talking to her on the phone.
So does mean she is already sizing me up as a father? Is that what single moms do when they date?
Yes. The simple fact of the matter is that any single mother is going to size up every potential boyfriend as to the type of father figure he could be.
If you like this girl and her kid, I say stick with it. Just be certain that she is into you and not just looking for a daddy for the kid.
Sounds to me like this is the norm for her. Whether that is a good thing or not is really up to you. I just know that when I was a single mom, my daughter was mentioned upfront but out of the picture for a LONG time for HER benefit, even when making new "friends". But, I am super protective.
You're not super protective... you're smart.
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