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07-01-2009, 09:15 AM
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Do you believe that people should settle for someone they may not be entirely interested in when they suffer constant rejection from members of the opposite gender?
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07-01-2009, 10:04 AM
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Don't settle. Don't be with someone just to be with someone. It's better to be alone and happy, and work on yourself and your own interests. HOWEVER, don't have TOO high standards either. You have to appreciate every human for his/her own special beauty. No one is perfect.
You won't always be rejected. But in the meantime ask yourself: why am I getting rejected? There are only two possible reasons: 1) the type of people you approach (the wrong people for YOU), and/or 2) something you are doing to turn people away (negative personality?).
Good luck.
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07-01-2009, 10:09 AM
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Location: The Jar
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Exactly why divorce lawyers are usually very wealthy.
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07-01-2009, 10:19 AM
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Location: Houston, TX
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Originally Posted by ambralita
Don't settle. Don't be with someone just to be with someone. It's better to be alone and happy, and work on yourself and your own interests. HOWEVER, don't have TOO high standards either. You have to appreciate every human for his/her own special beauty. No one is perfect.
You won't always be rejected. But in the meantime ask yourself: why am I getting rejected? There are only two possible reasons: 1) the type of people you approach (the wrong people for YOU), and/or 2) something you are doing to turn people away (negative personality?).
Good luck.
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Well said...may need to be comfortable with yourself before another person can. I think you will know when its right. |
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07-01-2009, 10:32 AM
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Location: NW Montana
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Definitely don't "settle", but at the same time look within yourself to figure out why you would consider it settling for this person. Make sure you are not placing unrealistic expectations on EVERYONE you date. No one is perfect (you included), and sometimes those imperfections grow on you.
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07-01-2009, 01:31 PM
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Location: Western WA
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Originally Posted by jeninmt
Definitely don't "settle", but at the same time look within yourself to figure out why you would consider it settling for this person. Make sure you are not placing unrealistic expectations on EVERYONE you date. No one is perfect (you included), and sometimes those imperfections grow on you.
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Very well said. This is what I think too. Lots of people are looking for the perfect match and end up alone the rest of their life because they tell themselves they will not settle--remember, there is no perfect match.
I admit it, I am picky, but damn it seems a lot of women are VERY picky! Thats why there are a LOT of single women with dogs sleeping in the bed with them... LOL |
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07-02-2009, 01:59 AM
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Originally Posted by jeninmt
Definitely don't "settle", but at the same time look within yourself to figure out why you would consider it settling for this person. Make sure you are not placing unrealistic expectations on EVERYONE you date. No one is perfect (you included), and sometimes those imperfections grow on you.
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That's the real issue. Sky high standards.
Marrying a lazy, unemployed, shiftless wife beater is not settling. Its just stupid but in other comments sections in magazine articles on this, such opinions are given quite frequently as examples of the result of not maintaining your standards. Black and white.
Life is gray - always. |
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07-02-2009, 12:07 PM
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Location: In my skin
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No. BTDT. If I had known back then how easy it is and how many ways there are to command what I am looking for, I'd be married by now.
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07-02-2009, 03:10 PM
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Location: Delaware...Oi
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Do you believe that people should settle for someone they may not be entirely interested in when they suffer constant rejection from members of the opposite gender?
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That's a no-brainer. I'll take door number 2 monty! Always many around looking for the same thing from the other sex (or sometimes the same sex), just have to be willing to change behaviors or location that might be keeping you from finding someone you don't really have to "settle" for.
I think people do confuse "settling" sometimes for actually being an adult in a relationship, being mature, communicating what they need and want once they do find someone they're truly interested in. But that's another topic. |
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07-02-2009, 03:21 PM
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Women always settle. When a woman has a long list of things she "must have" in a man, once she has selected the candidates based on the superficial things that she can verify, she is automatically "settling" for the type who can effectively fake some, or sometimes all of the rest. |
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