Are Dating Rules a Help or Hinderance (love, family, relations)

[WhyShouldIWorry]

Do rules about what you will do while dating and who you will see really help your success? Or do they just result in you weeding out good prospects?

Lots of comments from both sides on this question:

The (not so) hard and fast rules of dating - The Globe and Mail

[PassTheChocolate]

But life defies labels,” he says. “It's not that five dates for X or three months for Y is necessarily unreasonable – it might be a decent ballpark. You just can't live your life by the letter of that law as much as understand the spirit of that law.”

He says making rules based on numbers, such as Genevieve's five-date limit or comedian-***-love guru Steve Harvey's rule of 90-day abstinence, is generally a bad idea.

I agree with this. Do what works for you. You may meet one person and decide you need more time to build, and with someone else it could flow instantly. Screw the rules.

[samston]

it depends. I think it's relative, like everything else.

i think dating rules are often based on experience, or just on a whim.

[Tia 914]

"rules" differ- depending on where you are...

rather than allow someone else to arbitrarily determine your behavior, apply common sense based on what's right for you