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07-03-2009, 05:19 PM
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Dating from dating sites and paying dinner
If both met through a dating site and both are in the business of meeting "the right one", who is responsible for the bill? Is it more appropriate to pay fir your own dinner or should he pay for it?
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07-03-2009, 05:25 PM
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Originally Posted by Itzel
If both met through a dating site and both are in the business of meeting "the right one", who is responsible for the bill? Is it more appropriate to pay fir your own dinner or should he pay for it?
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Hmm...not sure. Did you ask him out to dinner or did he ask you out to dinner? If he did, then I'd say he should since your basically like the "guest". Again, I'm not really sure what to say on this one. -mmccul
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07-03-2009, 05:33 PM
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I think the best way to go with a dating site is just grab a drink or a cup of coffee the first time out, and then do a regular date.
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07-03-2009, 05:34 PM
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I`m not sure...but if this is your first meeting, I would think that you both paid for your own. 
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07-03-2009, 05:35 PM
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Originally Posted by Itzel
If both met through a dating site and both are in the business of meeting "the right one", who is responsible for the bill? Is it more appropriate to pay fir your own dinner or should he pay for it?
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Normally I would say the guy but now adays sometimes the woman pays.
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07-03-2009, 05:38 PM
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I think the best way to go with a dating site is just grab a drink or a cup of coffee the first time out, and then do a regular date.
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That's a good idea. However, don't get too carried away with that drink buddy  .
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07-03-2009, 05:38 PM
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Quote:
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If both met through a dating site and both are in the business of meeting "the right one", who is responsible for the bill? Is it more appropriate to pay fir your own dinner or should he pay for it?
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Doesn't matter how you met. And it depends on who asked who. If you are just doing a "first meet", then just meet for a drink or coffee. You can each pay for your own if that makes you feel more comfortable...but really it's no different than if someone set you up for a blind date. Same protocol applies...so whatever you are comfortable with.
In my own experience, I've never paid for anything on either a first meet, or a first date. The guy has asked me out, and they have always preferred to pay.
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07-03-2009, 05:56 PM
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Originally Posted by Itzel
If both met through a dating site and both are in the business of meeting "the right one", who is responsible for the bill? Is it more appropriate to pay fir your own dinner or should he pay for it?
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I'd say that most likely your male date will offer to pay for the whole dinner. But if it were me, I would let him pay for the meal IF I liked him and thought that we'd be having future dates... and then the next date, I'd pick up the tab. However, if during that first date, if we weren't clicking and I was feeling that I wasn't going to go out with him again, I would insist on either paying for my dinner and drinks or splitting the tab with him (depending on if we were about equal on what we ordered, if he was drinking a lot, I don't want to pay for his drinks).
Anyway, I feel that how the bill gets paid is a good way to send a message back to him as to your future get togethers. Splitting the bill is a good way to start the process of letting him know nicely that you aren't feeling any sparks towards him. Letting him pay the whole tab is telling him that you'd like him to continue courting you.
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07-03-2009, 05:58 PM
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If both met through a dating site and both are in the business of meeting "the right one", who is responsible for the bill? Is it more appropriate to pay fir your own dinner or should he pay for it?
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That's how it should be but it's not
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07-03-2009, 06:13 PM
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Splitting the bill is a good way to start the process of letting him know nicely that you aren't feeling any sparks towards him. Letting him pay the whole tab is telling him that you'd like him to continue courting you.
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I have never heard that...and not something I would do. I pay for my date's dinner only after we are seeing each other regularly, and I want to treat him. It's an occasional thing...but I think it's a nice gesture.
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