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Old 07-07-2009, 06:09 PM
 
Location: The Jar
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It's just cowardice, no matter how much rationalization one gives. Grownups deliver such news in person or, if geographically impractical, by telephone.
Amen to that!
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Old 07-07-2009, 06:11 PM
 
Location: The Jar
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Dear OP,

Confront him and tell him like a HUMAN BEING.

Doing it otherwise makes you look "cheap" (to not state another type adjective).

What is he, some kind of "it"?

Also, just because many others may do the E-Mail route doesn't make them right IMO, unless he/she was a Health or Physical liability in a matter of speaking.
Right on to that!
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Old 07-07-2009, 06:15 PM
 
Location: Florida
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Did you know I could drive a boat from Omaha to the Gulf of Mexico? So yes, I will throw my bottle into the ocean.

And don't give me the rollie eye thingy, it hurts my feelings.
So who are you going to break up with?

It's because of your passion for me, isn't it? You really want to drive that boat into the Gulf of Mexico so you can swing over to Tampa. Uh-huh. . I'm onto you.

Sneaky-sneaky. . .
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Old 07-07-2009, 06:27 PM
 
Location: Omaha
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So who are you going to break up with?

It's because of your passion for me, isn't it? You really want to drive that boat into the Gulf of Mexico so you can swing over to Tampa. Uh-huh. . I'm onto you.

Sneaky-sneaky. . .
Ha, didn't even think about that. Let me pack my things
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Old 07-08-2009, 03:31 AM
 
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My ex broke up with me via e-mail. I tell you, its not a good thing to do. I still fantasize about where I'll be dumping his body if he "accidentally" gets runned over.
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Old 07-08-2009, 05:49 PM
 
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I agree with CPG and JeepGirl and the others who said you should have the decency and respect for your boyfriend to end your relationship with him in person.

I'm still wondering how you know he doesn't value the relationship the way you do. You never stated that he came out and said that this was a casual thing for him and that he didn't have deep feelings for you. Have you talked about this with him or are you just assuming and speculating?
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Old 07-08-2009, 06:06 PM
 
Location: The Jar
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People who do it via e-mail usually have something to hide.
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Old 07-08-2009, 06:39 PM
 
Location: Sugarland
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I agree with CPG and JeepGirl and the others who said you should have the decency and respect for your boyfriend to end your relationship with him in person.

I'm still wondering how you know he doesn't value the relationship the way you do. You never stated that he came out and said that this was a casual thing for him and that he didn't have deep feelings for you. Have you talked about this with him or are you just assuming and speculating?
I have talked to him about it. He doesn't just come out and say, "You're right, I'm not that into you" but he doesn't tell me that I'm wrong either. He's not really verbally expressive regarding his feelings for me. He has told me before that he's not interested in a serious relationship right now and he wants to have all his career stuff in place before he settles down, and his actions reflect that. I'm not expecting him to settle down with me right this instant, but I just wish that he treated me with a bit more affection and consideration.

But as I said before, I've decided not to send him a breakup e-mail. I have printed out a detailed letter that pretty much says all the things that I can never quite articulate when I try to talk to him about it, but I don't think I'll be giving him that letter either. I don't mean to be so indecisive, but I just have these emotional mood swings from time to time. When my feelings get hurt, I want to end the relationship. Then, I think about how the good in our relationship outweighs the bad, and I really don't believe that he's hurting me intentionally. So today, I don't really want to break up with him as much as I did a few days ago.
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Old 10-29-2010, 09:30 PM
 
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Um...I think its fine to break up over e-mail. You get out what you need to say and the other person gets to say what they want to say...with time to think through their answer as well. Having someone believe that you are getting together for dinner or something and wasting a night of their life to ruin it is selfish. And sitting across from them knowing that you are about to ruin their night and telling them something hurtful just to watch them break down and be super embarrassed about it later is mean. If I am dumped in the near future I hope my boyfriend does it over e-mail instead of making me a crying babbling girl in front of someone who I just said they dont like me anymore...talk about total **** of a night. No one ever gets straight answers face to face anyway. Lets face it people...we break up in person because it just makes us feel like if we hold their hand while they cry we actually didnt do anything wrong...
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Old 10-30-2010, 08:33 PM
 
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Default Cowards...

Cowards break up with people via email.
Cowards lie, cheat, steal, abuse, use, manipulate others
Cowards are insecure and lack self respect / esteem and therefore are unable to respect others.
Cowards blame others, make excuses for their mistakes and run from obligation, duty, responsibilities, commitments, rules, laws that govern society.
Cowards believe in no one, No God or higher power, no consequence for their misconduct, no regret for their wrong doing, no shame for their sins.
Cowards hide and lurk in the shadows, behind others who they resent and envy.
Cowards hurt others with their lack of morals and deceitful ways
but most of all...
Cowards hurt themselves.

How does a loser ever win?
Losers NEVER win...ever...

Cowards are LOSERS....
Losers in love
Losers in life.

Good Men are not Cowards.
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