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Old 07-06-2009, 03:34 PM
 
Location: Florida
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{shrug} I'm not in a hurry to get into another one. Certainly not actively looking for anything.
You're NOT?

This is not your Personal Ad listed right here 1/4 down the list in the Personals section here at CD?

TKramar
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Location: Bradenton, Florida
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Southwest Florida
Sarasota-Bradenton preferred. Tampa-St. Pete has potential. Within 100 miles or so of the previous metro?

I'd like to meet a single woman, no kids, between the ages of 30 and 48.



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Old 07-06-2009, 03:58 PM
 
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Simple answer = 1 post.

Ridiculously complex rationalizations for bad behavior = over 7 pages.

Watching the insane defenses go slowly up in flames from the comfort of your pajamas = Priceless.
Exactly. My viewpoint? The more convoluted the explanation, the more likely that it's the wrong point of view.
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Old 07-06-2009, 04:00 PM
 
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Perhaps, but it depends. I lost a friendship because the other person didn't stay in touch. I tried reaching out a couple times, but my friend stopped answering. That's when I gave up. So the abandonment was mutual, but as far as I was concerned, I had little choice. Hard to stay friends with someone who wasn't even meeting me halfway.
Yep, I understand.

I had a brief relationship, about 3 months, where it unexpectedly came to light that she'd be "long distance" - moving about 2 hours away, and would make an effort to be back and forth. I made it clear I wasn't into that, but we continued to see one another while she was in town. When the time came, she just left, and that was that.

When I saw this thread I began to wonder - should I have driven up there to break up with her? Called her, emailed her, or just let the "mutual disappearance" occur?

Regardless of what Mearth and JeepGirl think, I believe I did the right thing.
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Old 07-06-2009, 04:15 PM
 
Location: Florida
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Regardless of what Mearth and JeepGirl think, I believe I did the right thing.

Don't single Mearth and I out when there have been several others that feel likewise. The Big Dog credit goes to cpg! He drove 250 miles to break it off with his ex-GF face to face - and then drove back home! (page 1 - in case you missed it) -
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Old 07-06-2009, 04:27 PM
 
Location: James Island, SC
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Don't single Mearth and I out when there have been several others that feel likewise. The Big Dog credit goes to cpg! He drove 250 miles to break it off with his ex-GF face to face - and then drove back home! (page 1 - in case you missed it) -
I actually did miss that - Go CPG!
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Old 07-06-2009, 04:37 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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You're NOT?

This is not your Personal Ad listed right here 1/4 down the list in the Personals section here at CD?

TKramar
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Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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Southwest Florida
Sarasota-Bradenton preferred. Tampa-St. Pete has potential. Within 100 miles or so of the previous metro?

I'd like to meet a single woman, no kids, between the ages of 30 and 48.



Yep, that's pretty passive, isn't it. Although I have profiles listed on numerous websites, I don't actively do anything about them.
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Old 07-06-2009, 04:39 PM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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Don't single Mearth and I out when there have been several others that feel likewise. The Big Dog credit goes to cpg! He drove 250 miles to break it off with his ex-GF face to face - and then drove back home! (page 1 - in case you missed it) -
My boyfriend of six years broke up with me over the phone. I wasn't that upset, but it was a pretty punk thing to do.
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Old 07-06-2009, 05:00 PM
 
Location: Sugarland
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Would you be ok if your employer told you that you were fired by an email?
If not, it's no different when breaking up with someone. It's a bogus, gutless thing to do.
I've already decided to go the in person route, but I don't really agree with your analogy in this case. I'm not his employer. He doesn't depend on me for a living, and he won't be financially devastated if I leave him. I would think that his disappointment in me breaking up with him would be similar to if someone told him that a nearby restaurant that he likes to frequent would be going out of business. Certainly, you can e-mail someone to tell them that. The guy isn't going to be crushed, so it's not about me wanting to avoid his reaction. If I thought that our relationship was more than a casual thing to him, I wouldn't be breaking up with him in the first place.
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Old 07-06-2009, 05:05 PM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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Why do you think you'll start crying?
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Old 07-06-2009, 05:13 PM
 
Location: Florida
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My boyfriend of six years broke up with me over the phone. I wasn't that upset, but it was a pretty punk thing to do.
Is he still single, I want that man!
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