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She said i loved my job more than her. Yet she sure had no problem spending my fat paychecks. Sure hope that truck driver she took off with doesnt SPEND TOO MUCH TIME WORKING and makes her happy. I'm rather enjoying the attention being paid to me by the ladies now that they have found out I'm single again!!!!
If you choose to shower your SO with gifts, that is your decision. Christmas and Valentine's Day, sure. Halloween and Thanksgiving? Come on. Don't expect someone you've been with for 12 weeks to do the same (though Halloween and VD are 5 months apart, not 3). I wouldn't do it and I'd be wondering why you were. It's been my expereince that men who spend so much so soon are insecure and feel they need to buy affection.
There could have been other issues, but your approach would be a huge problem for a lot of women. Still, there's someone for everyone, I hope you find it.
Yeah I gave her gifts on Halloween and Thanksgiving because that is the kind of person I am. I like giving gifts. I don't give gifts because I'm insecure or need to buy affection. You can ask anyone I know and they would definetly tell you I don't buy affection. I'm not insecure about myself. I have high self-esteem and are a very confident and independent person.
We started going out the last week of October and ended on Presidents Day. So we were together just short of 4 months.
Their were other issues also. I felt that our relationship wasn't really going anywhere. Plus their were issues that were going on with her family that I didn't want to be involved with.
Previous to my current relationship, the most recent one ended for several reasons, including the following and probably more factors to which I was not quite as privy:
-It was an LDR with no foreseeable closing of the gap on the horizon (his choice, i.e. he wasn't that serious, wanted a GF he could hang out with occasionally, not regularly). Which is not all bad, because I'd probably be kicking myself right now HAD I moved to California.
-Unwillingness on his part to buck pressure from his foreign-born parents relating to my being caucasian and his being black...they were very vocal about how they always "saw" him ending up with another Nigerian.
-Unwillingness on his part to buck pressure from his family relating to my then being in the modestly paying field of print journalism, and his being in a higher-powered and higher-paying state government job (don't think they would have been impressed with my now-career in education, either, and definitely weren't impressed with my English degree, although it was from a superior school to their biology degree-holding son's...they were really only impressed with medicine/science and fairly disdainful of the humanities, and he was cut from much the same cloth).
-I suspect he realized that he ultimately wanted somebody a bit less opinionated. He got enough opinions from his family.
Ultimately, he wasn't that interested. Which is typically how it goes when a relationship ends. Interest doesn't outweigh the effort.
That sort of reply from you is really getting old...
But seriously, I can't express enough how happiness my part time job at the university is giving me. Several times a week, I am meeting and talking with such amazing, brilliant and nice people! My mind is truly in heaven!!! I guess that you wouldn't fit in with this crowd...
J/K... but maybe not, considering your constant negative comments about my need for my s/o to be my intellectual match. And you really seemed to hit it off with that Canadian ex-stripper dancer in the Netherlands.
He played in a rock band and looked the part. I fell for the image. He thought he was going to support himself playing in a cover band and didn't see the need for a job. Was content letting his parents support him. I later found he had been fired or let go from almost every job he had had. There were other issues, but the lack of maturity and responsibility was a deal breaker.
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