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As a single person who's never been married, I'm fascinated with how certain people find someone to marry them. Every now and then, I'll meet or just see someone and think to myself, "Why would anyone in their right mind marry you?" I don't mean this in terms of looks. Obviously, some of us aren't as hung up on looks as others are. What I'm talking about is personality. Maybe you meet a woman who's a total B or a guy who's a total A and discover they're married and you're left scratching your head as to what kind of person would want to be married to them. In this world where people constantly complain that it's hard to meet quality people, I find it ironic that some of the most unlikable people can find someone to not only date them, but actually marry them.
I would love to hear your stories.
I often wonder about my parents. My dad is such a grouch. He's always pissed off and super sarcastic and in a bad mood pretty much all the time. God forbid you disagree with him because all hell breaks loose. My mom sorta gives it right back to him now. My mom is basically a happy person and lots of fun to be around. I just don't understand how the two of them hooked up.
She tells me it hasn't always been this way - that he used to be caring and that they used to have fun together.
Both my parents are obviously older now, and they are heavier than when they first met. Dad is now almost 400 pounds. I wonder about this too. When my dad was a young man, he had an athletic build and was a very nice looking man. He literally had movie star good looks. I just don't understand how you go from movie star to almost 400 pounds. I believe a lot of his grumpiness and unhappiness comes from being overweight and barely able to walk. Yet, it's a cycle - he eats because he's depressed or unhappy, and he's unhappy because he eats. Unfortunately, neither of my parents believe my theory about depression and eating, and don't believe in seeking professional help for it.
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I often wonder about my parents. My dad is such a grouch. He's always pissed off and super sarcastic and in a bad mood pretty much all the time. God forbid you disagree with him because all hell breaks loose. My mom sorta gives it right back to him now. My mom is basically a happy person and lots of fun to be around. I just don't understand how the two of them hooked up.
She tells me it hasn't always been this way - that he used to be caring and that they used to have fun together.
Both my parents are obviously older now, and they are heavier than when they first met. Dad is now almost 400 pounds. I wonder about this too. When my dad was a young man, he had an athletic build and was a very nice looking man. He literally had movie star good looks. I just don't understand how you go from movie star to almost 400 pounds. I believe a lot of his grumpiness and unhappiness comes from being overweight and barely able to walk. Yet, it's a cycle - he eats because he's depressed or unhappy, and he's unhappy because he eats. Unfortunately, neither of my parents believe my theory about depression and eating, and don't believe in seeking professional help for it.
I remember seeing a post here (maybe in the Parenting forum) how after someone's mom died (the cheerful mom had been catering to her grouchy husband hand and foot all their lives), the father realized how precious his wife was, and became much more attentive to people around him, and even lightened up. And started regretting not appreciating his wife while there was time.
I wonder how many people are being taken for granted. Routine may make you unapreciative. Which is no excuse.
My parents are, too, a unique combination - my mother wouldn't be able to survive with anyone else than my father. A narcissist who found an adoring and forgiving and kind soul. And there lies their secret to a long-term marriage.
So true, Nuala. You don't realize what you had until it's gone - like gone forever! My grandpa (my grouchy dad's dad) was a piece of work as well. When my grandma died, grandpa made comments like he wished he would have just let her have the draperies she wanted in the living room. He thought they were too much money, but now if he could have her back, he'd let her get those damn drapes. Lots of things like that. It's sad.
I guess there are a lot of factors in the why/how my wife and I hooked up. Some of them are obvious, some of them kind of more mysterious. After our first long kiss, I knew she was the one, and I still feel the same way about her.
On the surface, we were attracted to each other physically and personality-wise, then, Once we understood that we shared the same core values and convictions as time went on, we knew we were right for each other.
As a single person who's never been married, I'm fascinated with how certain people find someone to marry them. Every now and then, I'll meet or just see someone and think to myself, "Why would anyone in their right mind marry you?"
I wonder the same thing every time I watch Bridezillas. *sigh*
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