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Old 12-20-2009, 09:27 AM
 
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The kind of father who doesn't trust his ex-wife to spend that money on the children, but instead on stuff that has nothing to do with the kids. While I don't believe every woman does this, there's no shortage of women who do. Child support can be easily abused. There's no way to enforce how that money gets spent and that's what angers a lot of fathers. Imagine sending money to your ex to pay for your kids' clothes and discovering their mother spent it on clothes for herself instead. Again, I don't think all women do this. But it's not exactly uncommon either.
Maybe it varies by state, but in NJ, a parent paying child support has the right to see receipts and records. And of course child support also means housing, food, utilities, etc.

I know there are mothers who don't spend the money strictly on their kids, and that is wrong. There are also fathers, divorced or not, who are clueless as to how much kids clothing costs and the expenses that crop up for school and extracurricular activities.
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Old 12-20-2009, 03:25 PM
 
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Maybe it varies by state, but in NJ, a parent paying child support has the right to see receipts and records. And of course child support also means housing, food, utilities, etc.

I know there are mothers who don't spend the money strictly on their kids, and that is wrong. There are also fathers, divorced or not, who are clueless as to how much kids clothing costs and the expenses that crop up for school and extracurricular activities.
Speaking as someone who doesn't have kids, I'm sure they're a lot more expensive than I would imagine. But imagine this scenario. You're a single mother receiving $1000 a month in child support payments. But you manage to support your kids just fine on $700. What happens to that extra $300? Do you just carry it over to the next month? Do you put it in the child's college fund? Do you give it back to your ex? These are all rhetorical questions. The point I'm making is that, as the person who's making those payments to your ex, you can never be 100% sure how that money is being spent or if it's all being used for its stated purpose. That's great that in states like NJ a person has to produce receipts. But I bet people have figured out ways around that and in states where you don't have such rules, I bet there's a lot more abuse. Understandably, that kind of abuse gives the whole concept of child support a bad image and makes a lot of men bitter.
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