Message to Women with Children (dates, younger, calling, feelings)

[WestPhillyDude75]

Originally Posted by Connecticut Pam

Were you upfront that you don't want to date someone with kids? Why was it her responsibility to tell you first? Whats the big deal with her waiting to tell you during the second phone call? Are you in that much of a hurry to find "Miss Right"? Did you think that perhaps she was trying to get to know YOU better before she told you? Maybe she was trying to see if you did mind her having a child and I guess although it happened during the second conversation...her bad....she found out now didn't she??

Oh....I was a single Mom and I think she handled herself exactly right. She got to talk with you first and then after deciding she perhaps was interested made the choice to tell you about her child during the second call...you decided to not call her again....Your choice but perhaps also your bad...you will never know now.

Some things have to be announced early on

[PA2UK]

Originally Posted by TVandSportsGuy

Some things have to be announced early on

And the second phone conversation when you haven't even been on a first date yet is pretty early on.

[WestPhillyDude75]

Originally Posted by PA2UK

And the second phone conversation when you haven't even been on a first date yet is pretty early on.

first conversation

[DennyCrane]

Originally Posted by TVandSportsGuy

Some things have to be announced early on

You hadn't even been on a date yet. There are a lot of things that qualify as dealbreakers, but we don't expect the person to disclose them all right away. That's part of going through the process of getting to know someone. I myself could never see myself with someone who's deeply religious. But if I were just talking with a girl and we hadn't even been on a date yet, I wouldn't expect her to blurt out "Oh by the way, I'm a fundamentalist Christian." Your problem is you're lazy. Seriously, how hard would it have been to ask if she had kids?

[NotARedneck]

Originally Posted by Twinkle Toes

Does the same go for herpes, AIDS and other STD's? Should you tell in the first convo or wait until later?

What's the chance of that for TVandSportsGuy? Spanking the monkey while watching the Steelers is hardly a high risk activity. Neither is anything in the rest of his fantasy scenarios.


Its like they say about TV. "This is fantasy. Don't confuse it with reality."

[amanda0808]

If it was such a big deal to you, you should have brought up the subject of kids and if she had them. Why was that so hard?

[zz4guy]

This is sort of like when a woman finds out the guy lives with his Mom at home and he doesn't tell her until he brings her home lol! And then she drops him like a bad habbit.

[nat_at772]

Originally Posted by MonaLisaVito

Ok, I'll let the men know ASAP, if I'm ever single again.

However, that doesn't stop loads of them from hitting on me and asking me out all the time while my children are within plain sight

Me either. I took my son to the park and a guy casually started a conversation with me saying "that boy's going to be a linebacker" or some other football thing. We chit chatted for awhile and then he asked me for my phone number.

Of course he could have been one of those guys I keep reading about that see a woman with a kid and automatically think Easy Access but I guess I'll never know

[WestPhillyDude75]

Originally Posted by natalayjones

Me either. I took my son to the park and a guy casually started a conversation with me saying "that boy's going to be a linebacker" or some other football thing. We chit chatted for awhile and then he asked me for my phone number.

Of course he could have been one of those guys I keep reading about that see a woman with a kid and automatically think Easy Access but I guess I'll never know

That sounds like he just wanted sex

[Asheville Native]

Originally Posted by TVandSportsGuy

That sounds like he just wanted sex

Don't judge everyone by your agendas.