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Funny...I think many of you mentioned the other day about a woman should not introduce a child to a potential date or date early on?
Maybe she was being cautious?
Kinda sad you would just turn your nose up to a date just because she has a child.
Funny...I think many of you mentioned the other day about a woman should not introduce a child to a potential date or date early on?
Maybe she was being cautious?
Kinda sad you would just turn your nose up to a date just because she has a child.
I don't think because she had a child he turned his nose up, but because she didn't mention it during their first conversation. I agree with the OP, this is not something to be brought up AFTER the numbers are exchanged.
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Originally Posted by MonaLisaVito
Ok, I'll let the men know ASAP, if I'm ever single again.
However, that doesn't stop loads of them from hitting on me and asking me out all the time while my children are within plain sight (and my wedding ring).
That's because they want to do you. I don't think they need to know you have kids or that you are married unless they are going to be viewing.
I think there are a lot of issues that should be brought to the other person's attention fairly early on, but its within each person's own judgement on when its a good idea to bring it up. For example I wouldnt go up to a girl in the checkout aisle and throw down a box of magnum condoms on the conveyer belt and wink (I've had a friend who did this, LMAO!!). How and when do you bring up other issues like alcoholism, molestation as a child, you cant have kids, large tattoos that are hidden, you're an atheist, anxiety issues, etc... The list goes on and on, its really a judgement call on when its appropriate, and of course taking into consideration due timing on feeling the other person out.
Funny...I think many of you mentioned the other day about a woman should not introduce a child to a potential date or date early on?
Maybe she was being cautious?
Kinda sad you would just turn your nose up to a date just because she has a child.
I agree that women AND MEN should be upfront about being parents to a potential partner, but for god's sakes I think a second phone conversation is an ok time to bring it up.
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Please be upfront that you are a MOM when you talk to a guy for the first time because if not he may suddenly lose interest. I got a reply from this pretty girl the other night and she waited until the second phone conversation to tell me she had a son.
YES DEFINITELY! You never know if the guy you're gonna meet is committed childfree. The older the bachelor, the more likely he is to be committed childfree.
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She was no longer attractive to me and I felt no need to talk because that's something you mention very early in the first conversation. I don't need to know your child's name or what school they go to but I do need to know you are a single parent which gives me the option of getting to know you or not taking it further. Hiding it makes it worse
It wouldn't surprise me if she schemed to sink her claws into your heart, THEN spring the news onto you - namely so she could find an extra wallet to support her kid. I'm not saying it IS true, just that I wouldn't be surprised if she merely overestimated how well you two hit it off.
STILL (no attack on you, TV, but), it's also the responsibility the man to let his friends and the women around him know whether he wants kids or not. I certainly do not, and I don't exactly keep it a secret. In fact, I tell people straight out in plain English that "I'm tempramentally unfit to be a father". That usually stops any prospect of being asked out right then and there.
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Does the same go for herpes, AIDS and other STD's? Should you tell in the first convo or wait until later?
ONLY if she's showing serious interest in me. Speaking of which, this is yet another reason why I'm not just committed child-free but also committed wife-free. Too many women out there did the bar and party scene in their youth (and MEN, too). As much sleeping around as they do with multiple partners AND as many people as did it in their youth, partiers are fairly likely to have gotten a permanent STD or two.
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