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I once wondered why some people never married, especially after finding out that they wanted to be married. Once I got to know them, it was clear why they were still single. Anyone else know such a person? How do you tell them what faults you can see as plain as day?
Unless you think you can make a difference, it's not worth the trouble. Still, being married is no guarantee of character and accomplishment. Some people don't aspire to be married.
i have actually never met one person who wanted to get married, but hasnt been married. now i have met people who knew they wouldnt want to ever get married, and are still single. they still have had long term relationships though.
Wow, so many answers and none on track. Please, read the original post again. This thread refers to people who are not married who want to be. My question is how to tell them what I can plainly see would be a turnoff.
Wow, so many answers and none on track. Please, read the original post again. This thread refers to people who are not married who want to be. My question is how to tell them what I can plainly see would be a turnoff.
Tell them what you think. But, is it worth the potential fall out when these types usually think the rest of the world is at fault?
I really don't think you should tell them anything. People have certain personalities; I doubt they could change that. People have to be true to themselves and if that means they don't get what they want, so be it. It's not our place to tell them about personality defects. What good would it do?
AliceT
I knew someone like this back up north
Really wanted to get married but never got past the 2nd date
So I had them go out on a "pretend" test date with another friend of mine (not theirs) only they did not know this was "pretend"
By not knowing they acted as they normally did.
My friend then was able to "critique" the problem and I had the job of explaining why they never got a 3rd date
The sad thing is the old adage
"some folks never listen"
so they are still single
Tell them what you think. But, is it worth the potential fall out when these types usually think the rest of the world is at fault?
How do you politely tell someone that they are a friggin boring douche bag??
I work with this guy who is a putz, real piece of work, this dude going be single till he drops dead cause he's got the personality of, I can't even say on the forum.
Wow, so many answers and none on track. Please, read the original post again. This thread refers to people who are not married who want to be. My question is how to tell them what I can plainly see would be a turnoff.
I know what you are talking about. I too have a friend who would LOVE to be married, and sadly can't see that she's her biggest obstacle to getting what she wants She is a good person but would have to be willing to work on some things she just doesn't want to address. So at this point I don't feel there is anything I can say to her.
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She is a good person but would have to be willing to work on some things she just doesn't want to address. So at this point I don't feel there is anything I can say to her.
