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This is just a hypothetical scenario and I am not involved in it anyway
Say, two people are dating, on the 4th date they fooled around (did EVERYTHING but didn't actually have intercourse as defined by the dictionary..the guy could have easily but somehow decided not to), girl ends up staying at his place that night...
now the next day upon further reflection the guy is having some doubts and now he wants to go separate ways but the girl is suggesting all sorts of future plans with him.
Do you consider this guy has done an unethical thing? Say if there was sex involved, then is there an implicit obligation that he has to at least "try" to be her boyfriend from that point on?
This is just a hypothetical scenario and I am not involved in it anyway
Say, two people are dating, on the 4th date they fooled around (did EVERYTHING but didn't actually have intercourse as defined by the dictionary..the guy could have easily but somehow decided not to), girl ends up staying at his place that night...
now the next day upon further reflection the guy is having some doubts and now he wants to go separate ways but the girl is suggesting all sorts of future plans with him.
Do you consider this guy has done an unethical thing? Say if there was sex involved, then is there an implicit obligation that he has to at least "try" to be her boyfriend from that point on?
Why has the guy done an "unethical thing?" The woman participated as well! This is the chance one takes engaging in sex (and "almost sex") and spending the night at someone's house. There is always the possibility that what looked rosy the night before looks like dying blooms in the morning.
Last edited by cricket_factor; 07-19-2009 at 01:26 PM..
Reason: The couple did everything except the act says the OP
Well, I love the term "obligations" when applied to matters of the heart. If one feels obligated to do something for a s/o rather than want to, then why be having that kind of relationship in the first place?
No obligation here IMO. A woman (or man, for that matter) shouldn't expect something more four dates and one non-sexual sleepover into a "relationship".
Unless two people have the understanding that sex is the de facto binding contract in a relationship,
then I wouldn't even consider being obligated to anyone regardless of having sex or not, unless I saw my future in their future.
This is just a hypothetical scenario and I am not involved in it anyway
Say, two people are dating, on the 4th date they fooled around (did EVERYTHING but didn't actually have intercourse as defined by the dictionary..the guy could have easily but somehow decided not to), girl ends up staying at his place that night...
now the next day upon further reflection the guy is having some doubts and now he wants to go separate ways but the girl is suggesting all sorts of future plans with him.
Do you consider this guy has done an unethical thing? Say if there was sex involved, then is there an implicit obligation that he has to at least "try" to be her boyfriend from that point on?
Straight up, if its not mutual, there is no point in pursuing anything further. Obligations are complications. PERIOD.
Why can't people have sex to have sex? What's going on in the world?
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